Journal of Sacred Work

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Note: Today’s Meditation is written and edited by Catherine
Self based on the writings of Erie Chapman on High Purpose Leadership and her
own reflections.
 

Presence
   Stop for a moment, right now.
Are you awake? Are you truly alive to the present moment or did you begin reading this with thoughts of what you must do next…are you perhaps still
thinking about a moment ago?
Ask a group of people for a definition of
presence and you will likely hear as many different responses as there are
individuals in the group. For some, presence is being aware of the here and
now. For others, presence is about paying attention

   Peter Senge, noted scholar in
management innovation, has said on thinking about presence he first thought of
it as being fully conscious and aware in the present moment. But he then gained
an appreciation for presence as deep listening, of being open beyond one’s
preconceptions and ingrained ways of making sense. For most who have
experienced the gift of presence, it is a profound opening of the heart.
   You’ve probably experienced the
gift of presence in your life – perhaps with a gifted mentor, a special friend,
a loving grandmother or a quiet neighbor. You’ve known that, no matter what, if
you needed them that person would be there for you. You’ve spent time with
them, sometimes talking, sometimes doing something together, but always – every
time – you left their presence feeling better. In one of my most wounded
moments, the gift of presence came from a beloved professor who said little to
nothing, but oh! how she listened. In her eyes, her hands, her complete and
total attention to my words I found healing and hope. I carry that healing and
hope within me to this day.
   I am privileged to participate
with groups throughout the year in a day long retreat for the practice of
presence. In one retreat this past year, after spending some time together in a
group setting, group members were invited to spend twenty minutes walking
outside – no agenda, no instructions, only an invitation to bring back
something found or discovered during the walk. Upon returning to the room, a
gentleman began sharing that he came to the retreat that day with a fair amount
of skepticism. What he found during his twenty minute walk, however, was the
discovery that he had “seen more in that short time than I have seen in the
past year.” In his voice I heard a sense of awe.
   I’ve come to understand awe as a
key dimension in the practice of presence. This sense lives far beyond a place
of simple happiness or even satisfaction in life. In the experience of awe is
the experience of the depth and appreciation of life – it is a place of wonder,
of being moved, of humbled gratitude. Awe allows me to be acutely present to
the moment, to the person, to the experience. It is in that place that, for me,
healing occurs.
   It is in that place that we, as
caregivers, can fully live into our high purpose. The gift of presence is not
about how much time we spend but how we spend the time we have. When I
encounter you in the hallway, do my eyes meet yours and do I make myself
available to you? As I enter the patient’s room, am I acutely aware of the
person lying in the bed, or is my mind still reeling with the voices of an
earlier conversation? Can I see the pain in your eyes or hear the fear in the
voice of my patient, or is my heart closed to the potential of need being met
with love? When we offer our presence, we offer perhaps the most powerful means
to healing. And healing is at the core of our lives of high purpose.
   Victor Frankl taught us about
purpose and Mother Theresa’s life teaches us about personal commitment; Martin
Luther King, Jr. modeled passion and Gandhi unleashed potential for the good of
millions. Churchill understood the essential quality of persistence and Helen
Keller tapped into the power of positivity as very few others have. Bill W.
founded a movement based on the belief of prayer and meditation in living a
life of high purpose. These are great leaders and examples, but it is your life that holds perhaps the greatest
power for living a life of high purpose – the power of loving presence.
   We caregivers, we who have
responded to the call to bringing healing to those who need it most, we are
asked to live fully into this life of
high purpose
– with personal commitment, passion and full potential, with
persistence and positivity, girded by prayer and meditation, and offered with
the sweet gift of loving presence.
   So, I ask you again to stop for
a moment, right now. Are you awake? Are you truly alive to the present moment?
It is your moment – enjoy its depth and breadth and beauty. And know how
grateful we, at the Baptist Healing Trust, are for your desire to live this
life of high purpose.

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4 responses to “The Practice of Presence”

  1. Karen York Avatar
    Karen York

    Presence takes courage – courage to show up for life. To be present to the joy and the pain that exist in the moment. It’s easier to turn away or to be indifferent because that doesn’t require any risk on our part. But to live in a sense of presence is to live with the intention of knowing ourselves at a deeper level. Sometimes that’s a scary place to go.

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  2. liz Wessel Avatar
    liz Wessel

    Presence, an opening of mind, heart, and awareness, with faith and trust as I begin to let go of my need to control, achieve, or impose my well-intentioned agenda. As Love’s energy begins to flow preconceived notions and expectations fall away leaving an opening into new possibilities and ways of being. When I let go of trying to reach a pre-determined destination I am surprised to discover mystery in the journey.
    In a very literal sense, I had an experience such as this last weekend, as I traveled cross-country to attend a family wedding. My connecting flight was cancelled due to weather conditions and I was diverted to Washington D.C. Suddenly, I was feeling upset and traumatized as my expectations and plans for a wonderful weekend began to unravel. I met a woman, also stranded, who shared a very positive outlook and I thanked God for sending an angel to show me another perspective. Without luggage, coat, or boots, I sloshed through the chill of winter, yet delighted in the feel of falling snow kiss my face.
    Over the next 24 hours, I met others in similar circumstances whose kindnesses lifted my spirits. Small gestures of sharing and caring, a taxicab ride, breakfast with a homeless man, Woody’s famous chocolate chip cookies, family searching out alternate transportation to Philadelphia, all caused my heart to swell in awe and gratitude.
    At the wedding folks attempted to console by commenting on my “ordeal.” Shaking off their notions I replied, Ordeal? No, actually what I had was an adventure!”

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  3. Tom Knowles-Bagwell Avatar
    Tom Knowles-Bagwell

    This is a really powerful reflection this morning, Cathy. Thank you. While I seek to be “present” in my work, you remind me this morning that there are depths to the meaning and experience of that which I mostly miss on a day-to-day basis.

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  4. liz Wessel Avatar
    liz Wessel

    This morning as I spend time in the quiet of this Lenten season, I wish to express the deep sense of gratitude I feel for all of you at the Baptist Healing Trust and for the readers and contributors of this Journal. Thank you for this life giving, well stream Journal, and for creating opportunity for us to continually focus our hearts and attention on the higher purpose of Loving care. As we share in this Love with one another, together we are all continually strengthened in our resolve as caregivers of light.
    Thank you for this unending gift of Love.

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