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Today's meditation was written by Cathy Self, Senior Vice President for the Baptist Healing Trust.

 "Silence is the fabric upon which the notes are woven" – Lawrence Duncan.

   Wine     Rest seems as important a part of the arts as the work of the brush or the focusing of a lens. It's been said in music the pause is as important as the note. To rest is certainly an imperative for leader and caregiver alike, yet it is the most often overlooked vital element of sacred work and Love that is radical. A scholar in the field of leadership has recently asserted that the average number of daily work hours for Americans has increased by 14.5% over the past years, although many have voiced a perception that the increase seems much larger! For American leaders, that figure has risen an additional 22% resulting in an average working week of almost 60 hours (G.Thornton, 2008). We are a hard working people, but what about time of not-working, a time to re-create?

     Rest is often defined as a cessation of energy-requiring activity allowing for physical and mental renewal and revitalization. My personal physician, Dr. John Thompson, commented this week that rest and sleep are the opportunity for our bodies and mind to hit the "reset" button – at least, he mused, when we experience "good" rest and sleep. It seems in our quest for job security, profit margins, market share, recognition, productivity – or even from a stoic determination that believes it can meet every need - our psyches have become compelling engines that continue their incessant drone even when our eyes have closed and our consciousness has let go its tight grip on mind and heart: we should, we must work without ceasing and, often, without joy. Somehow, in some way, taking time for rest has become associated with weakness, low commitment, or misplaced loyalty. I hear and see that deceptive voice echoed in the lives of caregivers every day.

     Maybe it is time to redefine success. I love the metaphor of the winemaker and the first cup as a reminder to take care of myself in ways that make it possible to be Love in this world. According to the winemaker, no matter how carefully the juice is filtered, small bits of grape pulp or skin find their way through into the bottle of what will become a sweet wine. These small bits and pieces are referred to as the "dregs." Although most would not be able to distinguish the difference between the first cup of wine that is later poured and the last cup that comes from the bottom of the bottle, connnoisseurs are adamant that the first cup is the sweetest. The wine that comes from that place where the dregs have been is more bitter.

     It seems so many of us give from the dregs, with little rest, revitalization, re-creation in our lives. Those who receive our care may not know, but we know – when we are honest – that often what we give is not first cup. To pause, to ponder a happy distraction or a compelling film – time to rest, to revitalize, to re-create – can this become an imperative? Are you willing to give of your first cup? Love asks no less and welcomes us to that place.

    

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3 responses to “Day 64 – The Imperative of Rest”

  1. Tom Knowles-Bagwell Avatar
    Tom Knowles-Bagwell

    This is a great reminder this morning, Cathy. I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed these days, and need to remember that there are times (more often than I’m currently allowing) that I need to say, “No, I need to rest.” Love says that sometimes, doesn’t she?

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  2. Tracy Roberts Avatar
    Tracy Roberts

    I always default to my belief that if you do not consciously take time out for yourself your body will take over and do it for you through illness. i.e. your body says to you, “I’m done with you thinking and strategizing about how you need to STOP and get some rest, therefore, I shall force you to STOP and get some rest.” Of course, we cannot eliminate stress, however, finding unique ways to recoginize it and manage it are essential. I was having dinner with my 80 year old friend Carolyn Tuesday evening. I asked her what her secret was to being so mentally engaging and active, and somewhat stress free (the close cousin to care free). She said one key was that she had lived in the same house for the past 57 years! She explained the benefits of knowing where your home is and how really important that is when life gets stressful. So, she said, stay put!

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  3. ~liz Wessel Avatar
    ~liz Wessel

    I agree totally agree with you Tracey and I enjoyed reading the little story about your friend, as well.
    Cathy, what really stands out for me in this helpful meditation is the notion of working without joy. I am not sure if I could last very long in a joyless job. There is always more to do at work than is humanly possible, therein lies the tension. In my younger years I was not good at negotiating work demands and I sacrificed myself allot as I was not able to see any alternative ways of being. I thought if I just peddle faster. The saddest part is that my family received the short end of the stick. This is my greatest regret in life. In this stage of my life, my priorities have shifted and I appreciate the necessity of balance. I suspect this is partially a result of maturity and realizing how precious life is when there is much less of it to live. I also think meditation has had a positive impact in naturally realigning my life.
    What I find powerful is your statement, “taking time for rest has become associated with weakness, low commitment, or misplaced loyalty.” Although silent, I sometimes feel an unhealthy undercurrent from one who does not practice self-care yet seems to resent others who do. Leaders can help by modeling good self-care practices and encouraging others do the same. Thanks for this precious gift you offer us, I appreciate your analogy to wine, fruit of the vine, and yes, I am willing to give of my first cup. During this Lenten season, I am trying to make this a focus. Yet, I have to confess I am not feeling too successful.

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