Journal of Sacred Work

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Today's meditation was written by Cathy Self, Senior Vice-President for the Baptist Healing Trust.

On_loom_quilting A recurring theme has emerged like weeds in a garden, finding its way into scientific exploration, leadership development, healthcare, social change, and environmental protection: replace what is broken, create the better product, rethink the programming, reprogram the thinking,  refit the body, recharge the battery. Our very language exposes our beliefs that all is mere machinery and that with a little tweaking here or there we can expand the potential for a few more miles, a few more days, a few more turns on the dial. When we are slowed by a steep climb or a heavy load, we press harder and look for ways to control the results so they meet our desires. For some the inability to control turns into fear and anger, for others melancholy and sometimes despair sets in.

Decades ago we began to envision ourselves and our work as mechanistic – something controllable – and in the process we lost sight of spirit, passion, compassion, love, those qualities that no machine can ever possess. We put on the masks of doing-well, high-performance, quality-control, focused-output, and precise-efficiency all in the name of organizational commitment. And when those with whom we work fail to respond as we wish, the problem becomes their lack of motivation or sense of responsibility, or obstinacy, rebellion, laziness, or selfishness. We, when honest in self-reflection, so easily begin then to look to someone else or something else that can just fix those problems!

Scholar Margaret Wheatley asks the question “Are expectations of machinelike obedience and regularity even appropriate when working together?” It seems we have lost sight of our very humanity and the intricate, interwoven, connectedness that we are and must be in our human being-ness. We hear cries for change, justice, and even peace but somehow look to others to brings those things about, hoping they can occur with no cost to our selves.

We seem to be in denial of what is a real interconnectedness, believing that what happens to a child in a small hovel half a world away does not threaten me or my children. Our recent economic waves around the world suggest we are more interconnected than we perhaps want to admit. The homeless man we pass on the street is our brother, the quiet elder sitting in the waiting room is our mother, the hungry child looking through wide eyes captured in a moment’s snapshot is our child.

It takes great authenticity and integrity to live from the core and substance of spirit, passion, compassion, and love that makes us human, to live interconnected, woven together by Love. Fear holds us back, keeps us from speaking up or reaching out, but what is it we fear we might lose? What do we fear might happen (or not happen)? What keeps us from reaching across the table to make contact with a gentle touch? Why do we let silence grow into an icy gulf when one softly spoken word of concern would bridge the gap? It takes courage to love boldly; it takes perseverance to love broadly. Love connects us, but fear can break its strands. What keeps you connected to others through Love’s healing force?

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3 responses to “Day 85 – Woven Together by Love”

  1. ~liz Wessel Avatar
    ~liz Wessel

    “Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect.” ~Chief Seattle
    Chief Seattle’s wisdom seems to resound with your teaching, Cathy. The image of “Indra’s Net” that Erie once shared, is a beautiful one that I like to contemplate as well. When one jewel in the Net reflects Love all the jewels reflect the Light, blessing all.
    Your statement, “we somehow look to others to bring those things about, hoping they can occur with no cost to our selves” rings true as I reflect on my own sleepy complacency. I am not so sure if it is denial or a lack of awareness, but it is a huge blind spot that we allow fear to build up. Sometimes pain cracks me open, other times it shuts the door of my heart fast. I want to release my tight hold and awaken. Your questions are so helpful in gaining fresh perspective. A primary lesson I am learning is that my treatment of you is really how I treat myself. It opens a door to love and forgiveness, and it drops the finger of blame and guilt as I can only point at myself. I don’t want to waste anymore time. Life is too short for anything less than Love.
    “You must teach your children that the ground beneath their feet is the ashes of your grandfathers. So that they will respect the land, tell your children that the earth is rich with the lives of our kin. Teach your children what we have taught our children that the earth is our mother. Whatever befalls the earth befalls the sons of the earth. If men spit upon the ground, they spit upon themselves.” Chief Seattle

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  2. George Tracy Roberts Avatar
    George Tracy Roberts

    I have to have faith that other people NEED what I NEED: community, love, peace, harmony, support. I get fearful when outcomes and “numbers” and “product” supercede these other real needs I have. That’s when my faith in something greater has to take over so I can do the work that needs to be done. I truly believe we can get to the outcomes we want and still have support and strong community; that we can reach our “numbers” with love intact; we can live in peace and harmony and still deliver that “product”. All I have is faith.

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  3. Victoria Avatar

    As I’ve matured, I have become more cautious of reaching out with love and caring. This is because I usually assume I can do something for /give of myself to another. Then there is the “wolf in sheep’s clothing,” who is looking for someone like me. I hope I can back away from this fear, but I see abuse more often than not. This is why I am happy in my workplace, for I am comfortable knowing we give and take in a place where this fear doesn’t exist.
    Meanwhile, in the world outside, I step back and meditate on moves I’ll make on behalf of strangers. But my weakness is children and the elderly. I think I’m safe here…

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