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Today's meditation was written by Cathy Self, Senior Vice President for the Baptist Healing Trust.

Leaf_reflection_sky_forweb Fleda Brown, a local columnist for a small paper in Northern Michigan introduced me to the poetry of W. S. Merwin. Born in New York City in the late 1920's, this Pulitzer prize winning poet offers words that seem simultaneously startling and soothing. Somehow in these, his words, is a knowing of both grief and gratitude. It strikes me that is the life we live – at the bedside, on the streets, in boardrooms and living rooms – a life filled with moments of simultaneous grief and gratitude. And if we listen, just listen, maybe we will hear, even so, words of thanksgiving.

Thanks

Listen
with the night falling we are saying thank you
we are stopping on the bridges to bow from the railings
we are running out of the glass rooms
with our mouths full of food to look at the sky
and say thank you
we are standing by the water thanking it
smiling by the windows looking out
in our directions

back from a series of hospitals back from a mugging
after funerals we are saying thank you
after the news of the dead
whether or not we knew them we are saying thank you

over telephones we are saying thank you
in doorways and in the backs of cars and in elevators
remembering wars and the police at the door
and the beatings on stairs we are saying thank you
in the banks we are saying thank you
in the faces of the officials and the rich
and of all who will never change
we go on saying thank you thank you

with the animals dying around us
our lost feelings we are saying thank you
with the forests falling faster than the minutes
of our lives we are saying thank you
with the words going out like cells of a brain
with the cities growing over us
we are saying thank you faster and faster
with nobody listening we are saying thank you
we are saying thank you and waving
dark though it is

— W.S. Merwin

From "Migration: New & Selected Poems" (Copper Canyon Press, 2005). Copyright 1988 by W. S. Merwin

Perhaps most of all when we feel that nobody is listening, may we lift up our gratitude nonetheless. And today we do lift up our gratitude. We give our thanks to you. Thank you, thank you dear caregiver, for your gifts of Love.

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2 responses to “Day 327 – Thanks”

  1. ~liz Wessel Avatar

    I have heard it said that joy and sorrow are of one and the same…and lately I have been reflecting on this notion. Your premise about grief and gratitude resonates, as it is helpful to hear this spoken aloud and to realize this is a common human experience.
    Yesterday, I spent a good portion of my day doing something of great value. I called patients and family members just to check in with them and I listened to many stories of gratitude and grief. A daughter wanting to protect her mom from the news that the cancer had spread, of how well her mom took the news and the precious way she and her doctor held hands. Yet her daughter admitted, “It is my brother and me who struggling and we don’t want to let her go.” I listened to the emptiness in the woman’s voice whose husband had died three days before. She said, “I don’t know what to say.” I responded, “There is nothing to say, I just want you to know how sorry I am.” I listened to the wife who finally decided to place her husband of 54 years because of his confusion and her complete exhaustion. She said, “Alzheimer’s is a terrible disease but I am so grateful to Dr. Boyd because those meds have really helped him.”
    I felt the gratitude for the people who trusted me, a complete stranger, who opened their hearts and shared their stories. I felt pangs of love, sadness and loss. Their stories triggered thoughts about my own stories, of my deep abiding love for those “near and dears” and for those who are far away. Thanksgiving remembrances for those who are no longer with us but who left the light of Love imprinted in mu heart…yes gratitude and grief and I thank you for your gift of love and I send my love to you.

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  2. Julie Laverdiere Avatar

    I am going through a challenging time in my life, and I am so grateful for life, and reminding me to remember how blessed I am with my family, extended family, job, friends. I know this time will not last, but gratitude eases the pain. Thank you for the reminder, blessings to all of you.

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