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Sabbath
Be content with what you have;
rejoice in the way things are.
When you realize there is nothing lacking,
the whole world belongs to you.
       -Lao-Tzu

   Wayne Mueller, in his marvelous book Sabbath describes the wisdom present in the Jewish day of rest. It begins at sundown. And the point here is that it begins at sundown no matter what time of day that might be – 4:30 in winter of as late as 9:00 in summer. This means stopping work not by whether the job is done, but by recognizing it is simply time to stop. What is the wisdom in this?…

   Mueller reminds us that Sabbath requires surrender. "If we only stop when we are finished with all our work," he writes, "we will never stop – because our work is never completely done."
   This is sound counsel for caregivers and their leaders who often become so committed to meeting the needs of those they serve that they become workaholics. I confess that this has been a lifelong problem for me. I have always had trouble knowing when to stop because the needs out there always seem so endless. Their endlessness is one of the reasons I need to spend more time in Sabbath rest. The needs will still be there after my rest and, with reflection, I will be better able to meet those needs.
   Workaholism is the most tolerated of all the addictive behaviors. That’s why its not so hard to confess. Tell your boss you’re an alcholic and you may be required to seek treatment as a condition for continued employement. Tell your leader you’re a workaholic and you might get a promotion.
   A true workaholic is someone who burns the midnight oil often doing meaningless and repetitive work because the act of working is the addiction. It’s a hard problem to treat because of the difficulty people have in accepting that it is a condition that actually needs treatment.
   Workaholics cause damage not only to themselves but to those around them. We know that self care and balance are critical to effective caregiving. Yet if I’m overworking, what message does this send to my staff when I ask them to "go home and get some rest?" Many of them can only think, "Why should I leave when you’re still here?"
   So workaholic behavior by a supervisor not only causes the risk of burnout but can lay an unhealthy guilt trip on staff members.
   This returns us to the wisdom of the Jewish Sabbath. We all need not only a day a week, but times across the week when we give ourselves permission to stop working, close our eyes, and rest. God calls us to take times of reflection, meditation and prayer so that we may experience the presence of God’s love and light. If we’re obsessed with task work, this can block out God’s presence and leave us living active but empty lives.
   Listen to the wisdom of the Sabbath. Allow times for rest. Know that the work is never done so that rest and Sabbath can restore the balance all of us need to be truly in touch with Love’s calling.

-Erie Chapman

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2 responses to “Sabbath”

  1. liz Wessel RN, MS SJHS Home Health Network, Orange, CA Avatar
    liz Wessel RN, MS SJHS Home Health Network, Orange, CA

    Overwork and work life balance is a significant issue for caregivers so I find this meditation particularly helpful. There will always be a tension between the amount of work to be done and the lack of hours and sufficient resources to accomplish the work. In the past, my anxiety was the fuel that enabled me to peddle faster and harder in a futile attempt to gain control. Eventually, I had to face the fact that chronic stress was impacting my health. I realized the situation would never change and that I needed to learn new ways of being.
    As caregivers, I think we need to examine what is underneath our compulsions to overwork. Are we using our work as a means of avoiding being in touch with feelings of loneliness, emptiness, or the vulnerability of life’s impermanence? Some years ago, when I was experiencing difficulties in my personal life, work became my refuge and an escape from a home situation that felt out of control. Work was the one place and I was able to have a positive impact but I was avoiding dealing with personal problems. A first step in self-care is recognition of a need to change accompanied by a compassionate heart towards our woundedness.
    Giving oneself permission for self-care is vital, as we alone can offer this gift; a gift that is as essential as the air we breathe. These days, meditation has provided a most helpful path to cultivating self-care and balance within me.
    I plan on posting today’s meditation at my healthcare ministry in hopes that fellow caregivers will read and benefit from your wisdom.
    This morning’s sun is shining as a bright beacon of hope, I am going to embrace this day and experience all the beauty and charm it has to offer.

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  2. Ellen Johnston, R.N. Avatar
    Ellen Johnston, R.N.

    I hadn’t really thought of myself as a workaholic until I read this. But I’m afraid it’s true. Thank you for showing me the need I have to find a place of Sabbath within my heart.

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