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   One man’s life touches so many others,
when he’s not there it leaves an awfully big hole
.
– Henry Travers (Clarence, Angel 2nd Class) in Frank Capra’s "It’s A Wonderful Life."

   About seventy years ago, Phillip Van Doren Stern had a dream which ended up transforming Phillip_van_doren_sternour lives. All of us dream, but Stern decided to do something with the images that danced through his head on that morning in the 1930s after he awoke. He began to pen a short story. He put it aside for awhile, then finished the story at the height of World War II in 1943. He called his 4000-word effort "The Greatest Gift."
   No publisher would buy it, so Stern (photo at left) made 200 copies at his own expense and gave them to friends as Christmas gifts.  His story ended up become one of the most popular films ever…   

   It’s very unlikely that you’ve ever heard of this author that enhanced
the quality of your Christmas experience, because Frank Capra gets most
of the credit for the way he took Stern’s story and transformed it into
one of the finest films in history – "It’s A Wonderful Life." Indeed,
you’re probably a lot more familiar with the film’s star, JImmy
Stewart, then you are with the people who thought up the story and
wrote Stewart’s lines. Yet the story itself is what has spoken to
caregivers through the film made sixty years ago.
Bedford_falls    Caregivers who choose to take a couple hours over the holidays to enter the world of George
Bailey and the snow-covered town of Bedford Falls will always be rewarded with a life-enriching message. They will see Jimmy Stewart and
Donna Reed lasso each other’s hearts (and ours) again. We will
all have the chance to wonder, like the star, what would have happened if we had never lived and to tip our hearts to the man who gave us this eternal story.
   That is the magic of the best stories that emerge in books and on the screen around Christmas. When Charles Dickens hatched Ebenezer Scrooge he gave us all the chance to reflect on our personal legacies. Will we be remembered as misers who hoarded our money and made lEbenezer_scroogeife miserable for those around us? Or will we choose to enter the Christmas spirit year-round bringing joy and good will to strangers and friends alike?
   Will we nurture the hope of "Miracle on 34th Street" or will be scoff at Santa Claus as nonsense?
   Beyond any of these tales, what is our life story? The turning point for George Bailey came at his lowest point when he stands on that famous little bridge and contemplates suicide because he feels like his life is a failure.
   I have a dear friend who is struggling  in much the same way this holiday season. The wife he dearly loves no longer loves him. A marriage approaching twenty years is on the verge of ending. Distraught, this devoted husband, a caregiver in a large hospital, has begun to wonder about the meaning of his own life.
   In the middle of depression, its difficult to envision the kind of happy ending that routinely caps the movie classics. When other people tell my friend to snap out of it, he becomes more depressed because he wonders why he can’t. When they predict happier days ahead, it intensifies the darkness he feels right now.
   My friend has brought joy and energy to the lives of so many through his caregiving efforts. Its likely you have benefited from his work but if I told you how, I might reveal his identity. Instead, I hope you will offer prayers for him and for all those who may have lost sight of how their lives have helped so many.
Clarence
   George Bailey is lucky enough to have Clarenece, his Guardian Angel, appear in person to take him on a literal journey to show what the world would have been like if he had never lived. To the star’s surprise, he discovers countless happy consequences of his best life efforts and experiences dismay when the people who are dear to him don’t know him because he never lived.
   The power of the story is its extraordinary ability to help us engage the gift of gratitude. George Bailey’s life matters after all, he discovers, just as does yours. If you had never lived, the particular kind gestures you have made to help others would never have been made. You are a gift to the world and your life is sacred.
   Caregivers transform the lives of all they encounter. Your love flows out to fill the dark hole of another’s need. Without it, our lives are emptied of meaning. With it, our lives – yours and mine – are redeemed.
   Because of Stern’s story,  Frank Capra found the chance to create a timeless film that is a happy part of millions of lives. Jimmy Stewart, Donna Reed and dozens of others in the film are as much a part of our consciousness as if they were old friends which, in an important way, they are.
   For Christians, the greatest story ever told is, of course, the life of the one whose birth gave rise to Christmas. Jesus’s example and teachings inform and enrich the lives of billions.
   Perhaps that is one reason George Bailey’s existence is so inspiring. He experiences a sort of death and resurrection on the screen, telling all of us that our lives are more meaningful than we can possibly imagine.
   On man sits down in 1943 to pen a single short story. He makes copies for 200 friends. That solitary story has become known to easily over one hundred million. A sort of caregiver himself,   Stern, who passed away at age eighty-four in 1984, could not possibly have imagined this kind of impact.
   There are countless people out there whose lives you have touched and made better with your love. You will touch some lives today, and more tomorrow, with the gift of light that flows through you. Thank you for your wonderful life.

-Erie Chapman

More Gifts from "It’s A Wonderful Life"

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Jimmy Stewart
(George): What do you want, Mary? Do you
want the moon? If you want it, I’ll throw a lasso around it and pull it down
for you. Hey! That’s a pretty good idea! I’ll give you the moon, Mary.

Donna Reed (Mary Hatch Bailey): I’ll take it! Then what?

Jimmy Stewart (George): Well, then you can swallow it, and it’ll all
dissolve see, and the moonbeams would shoot out of your fingers and your toes
and the ends of your hair… am I talking too much?
——
Henry
Travers
(Clarence): Remember George, No man is a failure who has
friends. 

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5 responses to “The Stories That Change Our Lives”

  1. Karen York Avatar
    Karen York

    People like me (“NF” on the Myers-Briggs)tend to always be searching for the real meaning of life and if we are making a difference. The few films you mentioned made me think of another entitled Mr. Holland’s Opus. While it’s not a traditional Christmas movie, it heralds the great work of one music teacher in a middle school who took this job while he was trying to write a great symphony. At the end of his career at the school (because funding was cut for music) he felt like a failure because he never wrote his great masterpiece. Yet at his farewell party, the many students he taught came back to thank him for the tender way he taught them and the confidence he helped them to find. He was writing his Opus all along. I hope we can relish in this fact in the here and now and not forget that we are in the midst of writing our own great novel, symphony or movie, and that we truly impact the our world. Thank you for reminding us of our wonderful lives.
    Karen

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  2. Joanna Miller, R.N., M.S.N. Avatar
    Joanna Miller, R.N., M.S.N.

    I knew if I checked on the Journal today I would find something special and I was right. Thank you for this wonderful essay. Thanks also to Karen who reminded us of another great film that emphasizes the meaning all of our lives can have. Most of all, I think today of the millions of anonymous caregivers who are helping people who may not ever know or remember them. To me, care givers are like Jimmy Stewart. Sometimes we get depressed and forget how many people’s lives we have changed. That is when we have to remember the meaning of our work and our power to love. This is the best time of year to reflect on this truth.

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  3. Carol Elkins, R.N. Avatar
    Carol Elkins, R.N.

    I bought a copy of It’s A Wonderful Life for our then young family in 1991. Watching it each year has become a part of our family’s holiday tradition. I know the characters will always be a part of our daughter’s lives. In fact, whenever my oldest teenager gets discouraged, I sometimes say to her, “Remember George Bailey. Your life has meaning too by the way you help others.” This doesn’t always work right away. But I think it helps her, and my other two daughters, to know how special their lives can be.
    I never knew about the man who wrote this story. What an example he became of the character he created!

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  4. liz Wessel RN, MS SJHS Home Health Network, Orange, CA Avatar
    liz Wessel RN, MS SJHS Home Health Network, Orange, CA

    Thank you for the charming stroll through “It’s a Wonderful Life,” for your message of love for all caregivers, and for the reflections offered on the story/impact our own lives have on others. When all is said and done, we all come back to LOVE.
    I will pray daily for your friend and for all others in this time of need. As with George Bailey our darkest night holds the greatest promise for rebirth and transformation. Before entering into the light of a new beginning, we must first journey through the darkness of ending. My heart goes out to your friend, and I wonder if it might help him to know that the intense grief he is experiencing, although very painful, is necessary when mourning such a significant loss. (If despair goes beyond our ability to cope it is okay to reach out and accept help from a professional.) Although, I imagine what is most helpful to him is having you as a friend, someone who understands his pain and can hold a sacred space for bearing witness to his suffering. I know he is very grateful to be able to call you friend (as am I.) Thank you Erie for the countless ways you reach out to touch and bless the lives of others with your love.
    Love Song
    The words I have to say may well be simple but they’re true
    Until you give, your love there’s nothing more that we can do
    Love is the opening door
    Love is what we came here for
    No one can offer you more
    Do you know what I mean?
    Have your eyes really seen?
    You say it’s very hard to leave behind the life you knew
    But there’s no other way and now it’s really up to you
    Love is the key we must turn
    Truth is the flame we must burn
    Freedom the lesson we must learn
    Do you know what I mean?
    Have your eyes really seen?
    ~Elton John

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  5. Sonya Jones Avatar
    Sonya Jones

    I was in a real “tizzy” this morning, I had a conversation with my mother over holiday plans and expectations she had that I just wasn’t able to fulfull. Every fiber of my being was one big knot and as I bowed my head briefly in a prayer of desperation I remembered the journal and just knew there would be a word of encouragement for my heavy heart. Thank you so much for this writing. “It’s a Wonderful Life” is my favorite holiday movie and I actually watch it throught the year. This was just the jolt I needed to get me out of the “poor-me” blues. Merry Christmas and a Blessed New Year to you, your family and all of the readers of the journal.

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