Journal of Sacred Work

Caregivers have superpowers! Radical Loving Care illuminates the divine truth that caregiving is not just a job. It is Sacred Work.

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   It’s among the most memorable two minutes in film history and you can see it simply by double-clicking on this circular movie reel icon > Click here from Reel Classics (Note: depending on your computer, you may have to wait a moment for the clip to play.) The movie is High Noon (1952) starring Gary Cooper. It profiles the enduring story of a solitary person facing the forces of an overwhelming enemy. Everyone has abandoned the protagonist. He stands alone for the cHigh_noonause of right and justice.
   The story is as old as David & Goliath. Yet it holds endless fascination for each of us. So often, the work of caregiving feels so solitary: you against the forces of illness, you as the only caregiver at a given moment in time, you against all those who misunderstand you…

   Family caregivers in home settings, especially those looking after patients who suffer from dementia or are unconscious, sit in lonely vigil next to vulnerable humanity. Perhaps this is why we never tire of stories like High Noon. We want Gary Cooper’s valiant sheriff to win, to defeat the bad guys, and to be lifted to the shoulders of the adoring crowd who, moments before, had hidden behind the curtains. But real life often deprives us of both the victory and the celebration.
   Populations are terribly dependent on the courage of solitary figures to lead us in times of trouble. Winston_churchill In 1940, the British looked for hope to the defiant, cigar-smoking image of Winston Churchill, a man who was described as so eloquent that "he marshalled the English language and sent it into battle."
   In ancient times, Jews crossing the desert looked to Moses to give them the courage to carry on. In the 1940s, tens of millions of Indians looked to Gandhi to lead them to freedom. And, of course, in the 1950s and ’60s, millions looked to Martin Luther King for guidance, while simultaneously, others reviled him.
   In smaller settings, employed caregivers look each day to their leaders for inspiration and for hope. Often, they look in vain.
   Too many leaders shirk their responsibility to lead with courage and love. They follow the easy path because it takes not only vision, but boldness to lead people out of the status quo. Doubts rise up. Resistance to change is ever-present. And leaders who seek change, even when it’s clearly change for the better, are certain to be reviled by many before their truth is finally acknowledged.
   Individual caregivers often need the same courage. Their enemies may not be a group of gun-toting bad guys. But the forces of illness are no less real.
   In High Noon, the dramatic theme is reinforced by several elements: 1) The good sheriff is abandoned just at the moment he most needs help. 2) There is time urgency since the train carrying the bad guys arrives right at noon. 3) And so many are arrayed against just one. The odds seem impossible. How can he possibly succeed?
  But what if he had lost? What if he had been shot dead by the first black-hatted gunslinger that got off the train? For some, that would not be an intending they could celebrate. But isn’t this the story of Jesus – someone who was defeatedRalph_ellison and than transcended defeat? Isn’t this the story of all who seek to fight the forces of evil especially if they fail? The question is not if we lose our battle, but whether we are fighting for the cause of Love. My son’s favorite quote is from Ralph Ellison, immortal author of The Invisible Man:

      Humanity is won by continuing to play in the face of certain defeat.

   This is a thing that Love does – it continues in the face of certain defeat. It is the nurse who comforts a terminally ill baby and stays with him until the moment of his death, even though there is no longer anything she can do to save him. And it is you, every time you continue to love another even when it makes absolutely no sense.

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6 responses to “Courage: You Against the World”

  1. Karen York Avatar
    Karen York

    This is a fabulous meditation on the lonely part of loving care; loneliness at the bedside and loneliness in the administrative office. When we are steadfast to love’s call, we have a far greater opportunity to make an everlasting impact regardless of who stands with us or forsakes us.

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  2. Carol Elkins, R.N. Avatar
    Carol Elkins, R.N.

    I love the double treat of the movie clip as well as your meditation. I saw High Noon for the first time about ten years ago and loved it. We all feel alone so many times in the course of our lives especially as caregivers for patients who have terminal illnesses. It’s easy to give up and hard to keep our hearts open. Thank you for your daily encouragement.

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  3. liz Wessel Avatar
    liz Wessel

    I appreciate Karen and Carol’s thoughtful responses. Upon reflection I recall a high point of my week. It was sharing Sunday at Emmanual House, (temporary residence for people living with HIV and AIDS.) As we shared in a meal and conversation a beautiful woman named Rose told me a lot about her positive outlook on life. She mentioned she had come to this country from Vietnam in the ‘70’s, that her family had not been supportive, in essence Rose is facing really big challenges and her illness all alone. However, it was clear that she does not feel alone or isolated. Her eyes were bright and her words filled with wisdom as she shared her faith and her experience of God’s love and ever-guiding presence by her side. As evening ended, and salutations were spoken, we gave each other a big hug and our hearts fused. To me Rose is someone who emulates the power of love over adversity as you have described in today’s meditation.

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  4. Sonya Jones Avatar
    Sonya Jones

    The darkest loneliness I have ever personally faced has been in the midst of others when I felt noone really knew or understood my personal struggle. Loneliness is prevalent in our world. We are surrounded by throngs of people, activities, media, material wealth but so many long for a touch to their soul. A familiarity that says I care, I understand, I love you, I’m here. Often there is little we can do to change the circumstances of the lonely but there is much we can do to effect the atmosphere and spiritual environment in which they abide. Fearless, loving, presence. We all want to be loved right where we are. For it is only love that can transcend us far past our circumstances to a safe place where loneliness is just a shadow outside the door.

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  5. Jan Keeling Avatar
    Jan Keeling

    I love this meditation. I appreciate the observations on the importance of leaders. I love the reasons given for hope (great Ralph Ellison quote!)

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  6. mattied9 Avatar
    mattied9

    Erie, I really enjoyed the meditation. It had a little bit of everything. A wonderful message, a great film clip (only a computer whiz could pull that off), and one of the best quotes I have ever read. Keep up the good work.

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