Journal of Sacred Work

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   The thought patterns of young children are free of the narrow pathways of an adulthood they have not yet experienced. Their minds are flexible enough so that they can accommodate fantasy and embrace it. Adults have a different enchantment. We are seduced by the things to which we are accustomed and our thoughts travel well-worn grooves. It is so difficult to change adult thought patterns that it often requires either a traumatic event or extended therapy to acquire a new way of thinking.
   The arts are a marvelous way to awaken our creative muscle from its atrophy. Poetry waits patiently for those willing to encounter its different ways. One of my favorite poets is Robert Bly. Here is the startling first stanza of his poem, "Things to Think"…

Think in ways you’ve never thought before
If the phone rings, think of it as carrying a message
Larger than anything you’ve ever heard,
Vaster than a hundred lines of Yeats.

   If we accept Bly’s challenge, how would we think? Once, I was leaving a grocery store next to a mother Fairy_also
and her small child. A dandelion puff sailed past us. "Look, Mom, a fairy!" the child called out. The mother yanked her child by the arm, "Stop that nonsense," she shouted. "That’s just a dandelion."
   That incident was so long ago that that "child" would today be in her early forties. I’ve often wondered what has happened to her; whether her creative side was crushed so often that one day, like so many others and like her own mother, she simply gave up, yielding to the concrete roads of ordinary life.
   Bly’s poem continues:

Think that someone may bring a bear to your door,
Maybe wounded and deranged; or think that a moose
Has risen out of the lake, and he’s carrying on his antlers
A child of your own whom you’ve never seen.

   Is your thinking beginning to open or are you already finding yourself retreating back to ordinary prose? The concrete mind always asks about poetry (and other arts): What’s the point? and: What’s the practical use of this?
   My favorite answer to this kind of question came from the mouth of Inventor Michael Faraday in the mid-19th century when he was asked about the use of his theory of electro-magnetism. "What is the use of a newborn baby?" he replied.
   New ways of describing things cause us to see in new ways.
   Old ways of using words trap us on in old ways of thinking.
   "Awesome" was once a beautiful word. Recently, it is has been so overused, abused and misused that it has been drained of its power to describe anything in a meaningful way.
   How do life experiences change through the use of poetry? I can describe myself as tired. But what does it do to the experience of fatigue if I engage the language of poet Maggie Anderson: "…the fast horses of exhaustion pulled me." This is how a child might think, or an adult that has learned to rediscover childlike thinking and pass it through the funnel of adult discipline. When I think of exhaustion pulling me like fast horses, it changes my life experience.
   I can tell my wife I love her, as I have done thousands of times before. Or I could try to write a poem. If I thought I had to compete with Shakespeare, I would be paralyzed. Or I could try to find my own voice, as in the example at the end of today’s reflection.   
   First, here is the closing stanza of Bly’s poem:

When someone knocks on the door, think that he’s about
To give you something large: tell you you’re forgiven,
Or that it’s not necessary to work all the time, or that it’s
Been decided that if you lie down no one will die.

   What a nice gift comes in these final lines. An invitation from a poet to all of us, especially caregivers, that it’s alright to rest. But what’s the use of poetry, or a newborn baby?

-Erie Chapman

Todays Other Poem: In search of my own way to express romantic love, I put together these words:

I
want to hold you 
the
way
small
birds should be held

by men with strong hands,

delicate but close;
not so tight that I would hurt you,
harm any of your soft structures
or make you want to escape;

not
so loose I would lose touch

with the feathery edges of your wings
or the warm contours of your
curved body, or your heart's quiver;

not so loose you would forget me, fly
from my hand at the first murmur of summer
thunder.

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5 responses to “Things to Think”

  1. Karen York Avatar
    Karen York

    In the past several years, I have become more open to poetry and am astonished at the powerful impact it has over me. I see the world in a different way and appreciate seemingly ordinary circumstances with a refreshing new light. I have even attempted to write a few lines and have found that experience invigorating and humbling as I search for new ways of describing life’s marks on me. Your poem at the end is truly lovely.

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  2. Mary Jean Powell, MSW Avatar
    Mary Jean Powell, MSW

    This is a lovely reflection. Thank you for challenging us to open our thinking and for offering ways to do it. Thanks also for sharing your own romantic poem. Your wife must be so pleased.

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  3. Tom Knowles-Bagwell Avatar
    Tom Knowles-Bagwell

    Last night I was talking with a church group about the work of our organization. Toward the end of my presentation I offered a time of Q & A. Someone asked, “If someone here tonight were to hand you a check for one million dollars, what would you do with it?” Believe it or not, that question came unsolicited!
    I was completely surprised by the question, but two responses came immediately to my mind. First, we could use it to enlarge our staff of pastoral psychotherapists to expand the services we are offering in the communities we serve. Specifically, we could hire two African-American therapists and a native Spanish speaking therapist who would allow us to expand our services in these two underserved populations. Second, our current organizational headquarters is housed in a building that is almost one hundred years old. We have done a lot of cosmetic work on the facility through the years to improve its servicability. But it is infested with “critters” of various types that are eating away the structure; the electrical and plumbing systems are from the 1930’s; it is only nominally accessable to persons with disabilities; and if we were to attempt to address these deeper structural issues, we would be required to bring the entire building up to current Code standards. So, if someone were to give us one million dollars, I imagine we would use a large portion of that money either to completely rennovate our building or to build something new. And I would want it to reflect our vision of being a place where every one of God’s children can come to find the power of God’s healing presence in their lives.
    It’s interesting to me that you should offer this reflection today. Thanks, Erie.

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  4. liz Wessel Avatar
    liz Wessel

    Opening the door to enter into today’s meditation I delight in wonder. I Keep hidden from sight, so as not to frighten, and watch an enchanting fairy spread violet on clover. There is a fallen log close by inviting me to sit and rest. A book of Robert Bly’s poetry waits to be discovered and curious I begin to read. I drift off to a land of in between spaces filled with mystery and magical vistas. After a while, I feel refreshed and I ready myself to leave. Pausing for a moment, I listen to a soft voice share a beautiful song of love. My heart smiles as I feel the joy offered in these precious gifts.

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  5. Liz Vieira Avatar

    A few years ago, we held a journaling workshop during a leadership retreat. The shared experience gave us “permission” to be vulnerable with each other, through the nature of the questions, the serene environment and the time for refection, rather than reaction. I’m inspired to get out my dusty poetry books just from reading the beautiful poems you’ve shared, (and yours is amazing!) I’m wondering how we might be able to elicit more “presence” in care-givers through an offering of some sort related to poetry, (on a voluntary basis.) Erie, I hope you will consider publishing some of your poems someday also.

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