Journal of Sacred Work

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Mozart_biographyLove, love, love, that is the soul of genius.   – Mozart

    Perhaps it takes a certain courage and genius on our parts to appreciate and live out the truth of Mozart’s statement. For the world doesn’t appear to place much stock in Mozart’s comment about love. Instead, everyday energy respects money, power, brains and physical beauty. Look at the covers of America’s magazines and the headlines in the news? Where are the images of real Lovers?
   If you’re seeking fame in this world, love may impede your achievement of it. For fame and love are antithetical. The great Lovers who we know about, Jesus, Mother Theresa, Martin Luther King, and artists like Mozart himself, did not seek fame. It simply came to them as they lived their beliefs and their gifts with passion. And these Lovers who are also famous are, of course, the exceptions…

   Instead, the headlines go to movie stars and politicians; and murderers and terrorists. 
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   Every so often, the public will complain that the news is too sensational or too negative – too much Paris Hilton and not enough about the good news. Briefly, a news station will run a few positive stories about a camp for kids with cancer or a charity that serves victims of domestic violence. But these stories never hold center stage for long. Something in the human psyche seems to tire of stories about Love’s goodness.
   The good news about this is that you can cultivate a life of Love without worrying about having to hire a press agent. The Lovers of the world need no fame. Think of the ones you know. They live their lives through daily acts of kindness. They practice compassion. They listen. And they live their faith.
   In short, they are people who live Love.
   It’s a pretty short list, isn’t it. And yet the list would be a lot longer if those who live Love didn’t feel they were inadequate. So often, I’ve heard Lovers bemoan the fact that they can’t do more. The Loving caregiver wants more hours in the day and more hands to do good work.
   Recently, I met such a Lover at Bordeaux Hospital, a center in Nashville that cares for poor, elderly patients and the disabled, including those with Alzheimer’s. As I sat with one veteran nurse, I wondered about her life among people she serves, none of home can remember her from hour to hour.
   "If you could change one thing about your work, what would it be?" I asked her. And I waited for her to tell me it would be nice if she had more help, or higher pay, or better equipment to work with.
   Instead, she answered with the genius of a true Lover: "I wish I could dine with my patients. That’s what I would change. Instead, I have to feed them and then take my lunchtime elsewhere. I wish I could spend more time with the folks who need me. I just love my patients."

-Erie Chapman

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3 responses to “Love’s Genius”

  1. Karen York Avatar
    Karen York

    Lately, I have needed more reminding that my daily acts of love, even when they seem small, do make a difference. Thank you for honoring the every day lovers of the world.

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  2. Tom Knowles-Bagwell Avatar
    Tom Knowles-Bagwell

    Thank you, Erie, for this meditation. I don’t know what it is in the human spirit — my spirit — that tires of the stories of true love and gravitates back to the sensational. Whatever it is, it’s not something I’m particularly proud of. I found myself with the same surprise at the nurse’s response to your question. In the blink of an eye I’d already formed an expectation of her response to you. And yet, if you were to ask me the same question, I don’t think I would respond with those sorts of things that I expected to hear. I find that interesting.

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  3. liz Wessel Avatar
    liz Wessel

    As I read this meditation I begin to reflect on the ways the genius of Love has manifest in the last 24 hours:
    ~ In a call received from a friend who had anxiously awaited the news,” all went well,” with his wife’s surgery. He reports, “The surgeon said he would wait until she is out of recovery and give her a good night kiss.”
    ~ In the hopeful voices of Isabella’s (13 mos. old) young parents who sit day and night by her bedside, praying, (and grateful for the prayers of others) that she will rally from this latest round of chemo that has wiped out her immune system.
    ~In a young man who says, “try grandpa, you can do it, try to write a word, can you squeeze my hand?” All offered with affirmations of Love, encouragement, and hope.
    ~In the news from a colleague who reports her loved one’s surgery went well and how they both felt the positive energy of friends’ prayers and good will.
    ~In a friend’s intuitive decision, that now is the time to begin a medical leave to care for her husband. “I am not going to wait for him to make the decision, I know he just can’t.”
    ~In the good byes of two colleagues who were laid off, both said,” when one door closes God opens another.” Each expressed a sense of gratefulness for the blessings in their lives.
    ~In the eyes and smile on my son’s face as he looks upon his baby daughter and in the strength of his arms as he holds her in the crook of his arm.
    Just as I finished writing, this e-mail popped up.
    Saint Theresa’s Prayer
    May today, there be peace within.
    May you trust God that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
    May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith.
    May you use those gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you.
    May you be content knowing you are a child of God. Let this presence settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing,dance, praise and love.
    It is there for each and every one of us.

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