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   The old story goes that a man was walking through the woods with a great sage. "I feel as though I have two wolves within me," the man told the sage. "One wolf thrives on my anger and frustration. This desiring wolf needs endless food and drink from me. The other wolf is kind and loving and asks only that I share. Which wolf will prevail?"
   The sage stopped, turned to the man and said, "The wolf that wins will be the one you feed."
   It’s easy to say, in the abstract, that we will, of course, feed the loving wolf. But the wolf of desire is very strong and very seductive. If it were easy to feed the loving wolf, we should all be very happy and the world would be such a marvelous place. Instead, we give the loving wolf crumbs and fatten the desiring wolf with endless food and drink. As a result, the desiring world grows stronger and stronger…

   So much of life is about our battles with the desiring wolf. Our life choices are constantly clouded by the tricks of the world. Some of the richest aspects of life, including procreation itself, are nurtured by our desires. We desire food, and we need it as well. We want to be protected from the elements, and we need to be as well. So we eat food and build homes.
Two_wolves_also   But in a country where almost every person has enough food, we are troubled by a national epidemic of obesity. In addition, every city in America is populated by gigantic homes often occupied by only two people.
   Clearly, Americans are comfortable letting the wolf of desire gorge himself. Meanwhile, the wolf of Love often goes unnourished.
 
Writing about this won’t move hearts. But perhaps it will help us step back and reflect on the life choices we make each day. Ever since I heard the above parable, I have noticed that when I feed the wolf of my desires he only becomes hungrier. Yet Love asks nothing of me. Love simply waits, with endless patience, for us to enter her presence where we may, if we are wise, enjoy a peace that is free of unquenchable desires.

-Erie Chapman

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3 responses to “Which Wolf Do We Feed?”

  1. liz Wessel Avatar
    liz Wessel

    Buddhism teaches us to look deeply at the causes of our suffering and then refrain from doing those things that cause suffering. The cycle of seeking pleasure and avoiding pain is an endless one. According to Chogyam Trungpa each day, we are met by either a pleasant or a painful situation that comes to us as a surprise. Trungpa encourages, whatever shakes you, do not react, and instead begin to meditate. Then whatever you take from that situation, take the least, and when you give, give the best.
    Intellectually I understand this yet I find it hard to let go of my pleasure seeking behaviors. Each day is a precious gift, and I need to choose wisely. In the little surprising situations that arise today may I choose Love.

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  2. Victoria Facey Avatar
    Victoria Facey

    I can’t count how many times I’ve had to “catch” myself from whining and passing blame; this was a tough day. I must learn to step back, take a deep breath and to not take things so seriously in my rushing about.
    We can become so selfish in our needs, while ignoring others who could use a hand, an ear, or even a smile.
    I aspire to practice patience and to learn to be more loving…

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    liz Wessel

    Victoria,
    Thank you for helping me on a moments notice yesterday, when I was feeling ill, you jumped in as a Loving caregiver to help prepare a welcoming atmosphere for those attending palliative care conference. I am grateful for all your kind ways and the blessings that you so generously offer.

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