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[The following entry was written by Cathy Self, Sr. V.P. of the Baptist Healing Trust]   

Community
   The Journal entries of late seem to have the thread of community woven
throughout – a community against injustice, a community of caring for an
individual, a community of faith. In writing about community, Henri Nouwen has
suggested community is, first of all, a quality of the heart. This quality
emerges from a spiritual knowing, says Nouwen, that we are alive not for ourselves but for one another. Community is
the fruit of our capacity to make the interests of others more important than
our own. Community is certainly central to our practice of radical loving care.
Yet community calls us to connect with others who may, in some ways, feel
different and strange…

   People tend to self-organize – that is, we seek each other out because we
want to accomplish something. In joining together we experience the opportunity
for newness and creativity. Yet it seems that differences, or maybe our fears
of those differences, often keep us from coming together to form community.
   Margaret Wheatly, a scholar in the field of organizational leadership, notes
how astonishing it is to see “how many of the behaviors we fear in one another
dissipate in the presence of good relationships.” Changes in attitude and
behavior rarely come as a result of an imposed program or even a newly crafted
company values statement. Structures, processes, and systems emerge from our
relationships. Says Wheatly, “[these things] emerge from decisions about how to
belong together.”
   So how do we develop and nurture community? How do we decide to “belong together?”
Erie Chapman has often pointed to the truth “where attention goes, energy
flows.” In the fullness of our day-to-day demands, perhaps it is the simple act
of paying attention to what we need most, in taking time to reflect together on
who we are, and who we could choose to become. The invitation is to explore the
purposes that have called us together and to focus on the heart of why we are,
in fact, community.  We are alive, said Nouwen, not for
ourselves but for one another.

-Cathy Self

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4 responses to “Day 29 – On Being Community”

  1. Tom Knowles-Bagwell Avatar
    Tom Knowles-Bagwell

    Yes, Cathy, way too often “life-style enclaves” are confused for communities. I want to believe that Living Love, Not Fear will lead to the formation of authentic community. It seems to me that Love includes a really wide diversity.

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  2. liz Wessel Avatar
    liz Wessel

    I love your message in today’s meditation, Cathy, ‘live for one another.’ I recall when my children were young it seemed that I was often trying to gain control over chaos through housekeeping chores (although I never quite mastered it.) My mother-in-law used to say to me, “Liz, the housework will always be there, don’t worry about it.” Yet, I worried it was a reflection of my lack of womanly ability. At this stage in life, my perspective has changed and I focus my attention on what I care about; especially the people in my life. This is because unlike housework, I know they, and I, will not always be here. I find great satisfaction in doing little things Lovingly. Be it offering a listening ear, taking dinner to a Loving but tired caregiver, or dropping my chores to go for a walk and experience the beauty of the day. I find I am letting my heart lead me towards joy.
    I received a Christmas gift, a book by Margaret Wheatley called, “Turning to one another” and upon reading this meditation, I opened her book and discovered this poem.
    We never know who we are
    We never know who we are
    (this is strange isn’t it?)
    or what vows we made
    or who we knew
    or what we hoped for
    or where we were
    when the world’s dreams
    were seeded.
    Until the day just one of us
    sighs a gentle longing
    and we all feel the change
    one of us calls a name
    and we all know to be there
    one of us tell a dream
    and we all breathe life into it
    one of us ask’s “why?”
    and we all know the answer.
    It is very strange.
    We never know who we are.
    ~Margaret Wheatley

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  3. Karen York Avatar
    Karen York

    I know that exist by the affirmation of another. Without community, why am I here, and who really cares?

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  4. Catherine Self Avatar
    Catherine Self

    Karen, there is a concept that emerges from African culture called ‘ubuntu’ which captures your comment. If I understand it correctly, ubuntu suggests “I am because you are.” This captures, as well, the essence of Liz’s comments – one of us asks the question, and we all know the answer. And, Tom, I share your hope that living Love is what will help define our community as we move forward seeking to make a difference in this world.
    Thank you all for your continued presence and contribution to the conversation.

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