
"The personality’s wish [is] to have power over experience, to control all events and consequences, and the soul’s wish [is] to have power through experience, no matter what that might be." – David Whyte
There is nothing more difficult for the human mind to comprehend than the notion of soul. Still, we try. After all, if our soul’s represent the essential and eternal within, why wouldn’t we want to understand what they are? And isn’t there a deeper way to understand the soul than through some phrase on a Hallmark card?
What David Whyte appears to be telling us is that the soul does not seek to manage the height of our joy, the depth of our pain, or the flat nature of our boredom. Instead, the soul grows through our life experience.
The wider and richer our life, the more our soul is enriched.
This actually makes a beautiful kind of sense and may be helpful to caregivers caught in wondering about God’s "willingness" to allow suffering in the world. Whyte writes, "For the personality, bankruptcy or failure may be a disaster, for the soul it may be grist for its strangely joyful mill…"
Perhaps our souls benefit from the widest possible range of life experience flowing through us. The soul can be seen as a sacred oriental rug – the denser the thread, the deeper the dyes, then the richer the rug…
This is such a challenging subject. Yet, after years of wondering about it, I am more convinced than ever that Whyte’s description offers a hopeful pathway for each of engaged in living Love. What he tells us is to live the full breadth of our passion. No matter how things turn out, the soul will benefit so long as we actually experience the fullest experience of life we can.
The soul shrinks only when we turn away from life. We don’t need to fight the winds that buffet us about. The soul simply wants us to face into them. This is not, perhaps, a new idea. But it is a new understanding for me. Does this idea suggest a sort of consolation for the likes of Job? Might he have thought, "I such deep agony as well as joy and through all of this, my eternal soul was enriched."
What do you think about the soul way of understanding pain?
-Erie Chapman
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