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Today’s meditation was written by Cathy Self, Senior Vice-President for the Baptist Healing Trust.

     "We cannot despair of humanity, since we ourselves are human beings." – Albert Einstein.

    I recently heard a fellow caregiver lament she felt like she was becoming a robot. Her days are filled Being_human with expectations from others that are focused on tasks and outputs, with no room for treating each other with warmth or dignity. "It’s normal to hear ads on TV that beseech us to treat our animals humanely," she shared, "but maybe we need to start reminding ourselves that WE are human and also need to be treated humanely." Her words have ricocheted through my heart for days.

     A speaker at a class day for a group of soon-to-be doctors shared some wonderful thoughts about being human, words that seem especially meaningful in the context of caregiving. Joyce Johnson, in her address to a graduating class of medical students, suggested that being human implies, first of all, that we are fundamentally the same as our patients in every way that matters. Listening to the stories our patients and clients tell us, striving to understand their story and its place in their lives and value systems is critical. We, too, someday will fall, will grow old, will become ill, and we will also have a story to tell. Being human means we have limitations, just like those we serve; and just like them, we will make mistakes – all of us. And we all need self-care. In its simplest terms, self care includes physical rest, balanced nutrition, and right exercise. But it also means nurturing our spirit, and giving expression to all that is creative within us. A mystery of being human is the need to find meaning. For many of us, finding meaning in our work does not change the facts of our lives; it changes the way we see our lives. And that makes all the difference. This is quite a shopping list in our quest for humanity.

     In that quest, many of us share a desire to achieve wholeness. I recently came across the notion that re-membering is just that. Some portion of our life has become "dis-membered" and re-membering is actually the act of restoring our selves to wholeness. Although none of us can achieve perfect wholeness in all ways in this life, Joyce Johnson suggests that the road to wholeness is the place where we can best serve the miracle of healing for our patients and for ourselves. For, as we know, healing is not something that we do; it occurs in the encounter and emerges from the gifts of Love. Believing that opens a door to the possibility of serving without growing weary.

     It may be from our attempts to be "super" human, or trying to be more than we can ever really be, that causes us to experience times of fatigue and despair. Our striving to do one more thing, to answer one more call, to respond with one more yes fractures our very souls from our being, and we become dis-membered. Too many years have gone by for me to remember the words of my application essay when I first sought to enter clinical training. Surely in those words was an expressed call to compassionate caring, service, and devotion. I doubt I was courageous enough in my youth to speak of Love. Do you remember the earliest stirrings in your spirit responding to a call to serve?

     What would it be like to write an essay today? Can you picture yourself in that place again, capturing the anticipation, excitement, hopes, and dreams for becoming a healer? What might your Love song have spoken then, and what does it say today?

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4 responses to “Days 262-265 – On Being Fully Human”

  1. Diana Gallaher Avatar
    Diana Gallaher

    When I wrote my essay as part of the admission criteria for Vanderbilt Divinity School, I included a story about the child I was tutoring. On a piece of notebook paper, she had drawn a heart balloon in crayon. Beside it she wrote, “Love is wath[sic] you need.” I framed the drawing and have always kept it hanging in my work offices.
    In my admission essay, I wrote of the crayon drawing as a tangible reminder of how we need each other. This child, living in poverty, extremely dyslexic, with no parents, knew what is important. Her wisdom fills me with hope now as it did then.

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  2. ~liz Wessel Avatar
    ~liz Wessel

    Cathy,
    I was away when you wrote this fine meditation but I wish to acknowledge your beautiful reflection and respond to your invitation of self-inquiry.
    I recall applying for my first RN position at St. Joseph Hospital back in 1977. I sensed that I did not make much of an impression on the director of nursing (as I was quiet and shy) but as the interview ended, I handed her a letter that told my story. In it, I shared about my experience of living far from home while I worked to put myself through school. While in college, a family friend called and asked me to move in and care for his wife who had terminal cancer. I accepted his request and I cared for Margie until she died at home at age 42. This experience helped me see my calling was to care for people at end of life. Upon reading my letter, the director hired me on the spot. My nursing instructor was dismayed as it was unheard of for a new grad to be hired to work on the oncology unit without any experience due to the complex nature of caring for these patients. I decided to let it remain a mystery. 🙂
    All these years later working to provide quality end of life care remains my passion and continues to be my calling. However, my role has evolved to teaching and mentoring other nurses in palliative care and I help to coordinate these services in our community.

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  3. ~liz Wessel Avatar
    ~liz Wessel

    Belated Day 264
    I recently re-read the book, “Black Elk Speaks” which I loved, as I did when I first read it in high school. In the latter part of his life, Black Elk described a vision that he received when he is just nine years old. In his great vision, the grandfathers called upon him to help his people. This revelation guided Black Elk’s healing powers throughout his life on earth. I would like to share this except as I believe it weaves a connecting thread of light into your insightful dialogue.
    “I am sure now that I was then too young to understand it all, and that I only felt it. It was the pictures I remembered and the words that went with them; for nothing I have ever seen with my eyes was so clear and bright as what my vision showed me; and no words that I have ever heard with my ears were like the words I heard. I did not have to remember these things; they have remembered themselves all these years. It was as I grew older that the meanings came clearer and clearer out of the pictures and the words; and even now I know more was shown me than I can tell.”

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  4. ~liz Wessel Avatar
    ~liz Wessel

    Belated Day 265
    Here is an interesting perspective shared by Elizabeth Gilbert in her book “Eat, Pray, Love.” She describes a Zen Buddhist belief ( page 329)as follows, “They say that an oak tree is brought into creation by two forces at the same time. Obviously, there is the acorn from which it all begins, the seed that holds all the promise and potential, which grows into the tree. Everybody can see that. But only a few can recognize that there is another force operating here as well—the future tree itself, which wants so badly to exist that it pulls the acorn into being, drawing the seedling forth with longing out of the void, guiding the evolution from nothingness to maturity. In this respect, say the Zen’s’, it is the oak tree that creates the very acorn from which it was born.”
    To me this is a helpful reminder that I am responsible for my thoughts and attitudes which create my reality.

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