Journal of Sacred Work

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The whole purpose of education is to turn mirrors into windows.  – Sydney Harris

   I used to read Sydney Harris' syndicated column regularly. It made a great impression on me from the time I first encountered him as a 16-year-old high school student.
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  We encounter mirrors every morning. Most of us work hard trying to rearrange the reality presented there. Presto, the crystal ball! Who doesn't love the image of hope presented in the glass orb through whose eye we can imagine a bright future?
   Crystal balls seem like fun. Mirrors seem like work.
   But crystal balls are guesses. Mirrors provide current reality of a particular kind.
   Most powerful of all, for caregivers, is neither of the above. What counts is to have a seeing heart.
   A friend of mine recently experienced a double loss. In a short space of time he lost first his wife and then his hospital job. For a long time, he was inconsolable. On the other side of this darkness, he sees the world more brightly than he ever has. The fire of his twin pains have burnished his soul, burning away false views and distracting noise. Now, he finds deep joy in things like playing with his dog and talking with his teenage children.
   In the midst of this terrible economy, my friend has less money and more joy. He finds himself uniquely equipped to deal with financial hardship because he understands the empty happiness money provides. In other words, whether he is gazing into his crystal ball or the unmeltable ice of the mirror, he is fine, just fine. His joy doesn't arise from anything outside, but from within.
   What do you see in your mirror?

-Erie Chapman  

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2 responses to “Day 34 – Crystal Balls vs. Mirrors”

  1. Karen York Avatar
    Karen York

    My mirror reflects the reality that I am looking more and more like my mother – that’s a good thing. In the ongoing fight against aging there must come an appreciation for life’s joys and sorrows that etch themselves into what I lovingly call smile lines (sounds far better than crow’s feet!). When we are able to accept our circumstances, like your friend, and experience joyful living in the midst of hardship, it displays itself in our outer being and the reflection in the mirror looks all the better.

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  2. ~liz Wessel Avatar
    ~liz Wessel

    What a wonderful picture and a stirring meditation question to reflect upon. On the surface, I see an aging woman still hoping to look attractive by concealing under eye circles and lengthening her lashes. I see someone confident in a professional dress that covers up feelings of inadequacy and loss. Busy thoughts organize my day, glossing over a vague passing thought, is it worth it?
    An emerging openness, a willing to look deeper, and to see differently at what I once thought too shameful and painful to recall. Remembrances of the many times I have failed to Love, of selfishness, desires, rejection, avoidance, and running scared from my mistakes.
    In the silence of my heart, I recognize all of these as calls for help. Love’s voice responds with an invitation for me to come. One by one I bring my burdens to Love’s Holy alter and release them into the healing light of forgiveness. Compassion, acceptance and freedom from any guilt brings peace. I feel joy welling up within me, overflowing.
    I can see you now, I see Love, only Love.

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