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Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune–without the words,
And never stops at all

Emily Dickinson (1830-1886)

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[The only authenticated photograph of Emily Dickinson]

"I am small, like the wren, and my hair is bold, like the chestnut bur,
and my eyes like the sherry in the glass that the guest leaves." (Emily Dickinson, in a letter to Thomas Higgenson)

   She never mothered a child or was married. Yet, her words live as deep spiritual gifts for caregivers willing to unwrap them.
   No matter how often I encounter her, I never cease to be astounded by the gorgeous contributions of this hermit-like woman. That is why I have written about her before and recommend her to caregivers again.      
   In all of her later years, Emily was so shy (I like to call her Emily because it makes me feel like her friend) that she sometimes refused to meet guests face to face, encountering rare visitors by talking with them while sitting out of sight in another room. She spent most of her life in a single bedroom in a single house in Amherst, Mass. From there she wrote words that continue to illuminate hearts around the world.

   This poet's story is impossible. As unlikely as that of Vincent Van Gogh or Edgar Allen Poe.
   Today, Emily's behavior would no doubt draw visits from psychiatrists, pronouncements of a personality disorder, and prescriptions for Prozac. Back then, she found expression by penning some of the finest poems ever written by an American. Today, it would be so difficult to find the silence Emily lived in every day. How slow her hours would seem to we who live surrounded by electric noise. To think that only seven of Emily's hundreds of poems were published in her lifetime is to mourn the blindness of her contemporaries who failed to recognize the jewel among them.
   Intrigued by the mystery of her life, modern American and poet laureate Billy Collins imagined himself into Emily's bedroom with an intimacy no man of her time ever experienced. His poem brings us into her presence in a startling fashion. His writing is called "Taking Off Emily Dickinson's Clothes" and may be found easily on the internet. It begins:

First, her tippet made of tulle,
easily lifted off her shoulders and laid
on the back of a wooden chair.

And her bonnet,
the bow undone with a light forward pull…

   Collins engages an eloquence that flows from describing details and actions with an exquisite attention that recommends itself to countless men who wonder how to join love-making with grace. Collins own precious gift was learned, in part, from Dickinson herself. His delicate undressing of the imaginary Emily draws us, perhaps, a bit closer to this woman who would never have bared her body to a man but who opened her soul to us all.

  In a different way, I rarely experience personal pain without thinking of another of Emily's immortal poems: 

After great pain, a formal feeling comes
The Nerves sit ceremonious, like Tombs
The stiff Heart questions was it He, that bore,
And Yesterday, or Centuries before?

The Feet, mechanical, go round
Of Ground, or Air, or Ought
A Wooden way
Regardless grown,
A Quartz contentment, like a stone

This is the Hour of Lead
Remembered, if outlived,
As Freezing persons recollect the Snow
First-Chill-then Stupor-then the letting go

   Emily writes to us across the ages about "hope, the thing with feathers," and offers us that hope and grace to this day. Do we hear her? Just now, you may imagine Emily Dickinson, sitting in the next room, her hands in her white-dressed lap. How does she speak to you…and you to her?

-Erie Chapman

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4 responses to “Days 58-60 – Emily’s Gifts to Caregivers”

  1. ~liz Wessel Avatar
    ~liz Wessel

    For me, learning about Emily Dickenson and the way she lived life enriches my experience of her poems. Equally wonderful is to read the outpouring of your soul in sharing your understanding of her poetry. As you suggested I have spent a little quiet time with Emily this morning and I discovered the depth of her longings in the following verse.
    So We must meet apart –
    You there – I – here –
    With just the Door ajar
    That Oceans are – and Prayer –
    And that White Sustenance –
    Despair –
    As well as her Love expressed in these lines.
    It’s all I have to bring today –
    This, and my heart beside –
    This, and my heart, and all the fields –
    And all the meadows wide –

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  2. Karen York Avatar
    Karen York

    The idea of being a hermit emits feelings of cowardice and of courage. It is easy for us to judge her as being too afraid to face the world, so she locked herself in. We would wag our heads and pity her being so withdrawn. Yet how many of us are so afraid of ourselves that we never spend time alone. Or we fill it with heart-numbing noise. I wish to be more reflective in my quiet times and produce writings that are more meaningful as I explore myself in a deeper way.

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  3. ~liz Wessel Avatar
    ~liz Wessel

    Day 59
    In an article by Michael Ryan I discovered this remarkable quote that Emily wrote to her friend Higginson, “If I read a book [and] it makes my whole body so cold no fire ever can warm me I know that is poetry. If I feel physically as if the top of my head were taken off, I know that is poetry. These are the only way I know it. Is there any other way”
    There is No Frigate Like a Book Poem 1263 by ~Emily Dickenson
    There is no Frigate like a Book
    To take us Lands away,
    Nor any Coursers like a Page
    Of prancing Poetry –
    This Traverse may the poorest take
    Without oppress of Toll –
    How frugal is the Chariot
    That bears a Human soul.
    And I thought I would share the ending line in her poem 320
    So safer – guess – with just my soul
    Upon the Window pane –
    Where other Creatures put their eyes –
    Incautious – of the Sun –

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  4. ~liz Wessel Avatar
    ~liz Wessel

    Day 60
    In keeping company with Emily Dickenson this weekend I share her wonder with you.
    THE SKIES can’t keep their secret!
    They tell it to the hills—
    The hills just tell the orchards—
    And they the daffodils!
    A bird, by chance, that goes that way
    Soft overheard the whole.
    If I should bribe the little bird,
    Who knows but she would tell?
    I think I won’t, however,
    It’s finer not to know;
    If summer were an axiom,
    What sorcery had snow?
    So keep your secret, Father!
    I would not, if I could,
    Know what the sapphire fellows do,
    In your new-fashioned world!

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