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Today's meditation was written by Cathy Self, Senior Vice President for the Baptist Healing Trust.

"The worlds' battlefields have been in the heart chiefly; more heroism has been displayed in the household and the closet than on the most memorable battlefields in history" – Henry Ward Beecher (1813-1887).

     Pathway Who is the greater hero – the one who stands and cries out with a loud voice against injustice, only to be silenced through imprisonment or death? Or is it the one who leaves everything behind so as to protect and preserve family, safety, and health? What about the one who stays to stand with hope and perseverance, quietly touching the lives of scattered individuals living in the shadows of great injustice? In healthcare systems and workplace settings across America there are tyrants as real and as unjust as those who lord over the camps of North Korea or the desert plains of Rwanda.

     It takes great courage to stand publicly and denounce what is wrong. I have witnessed the professional (and sometimes personal) demise of a number of caregivers who have chosen to take that path. They are heroes for many. And it takes great valor to walk away from a long career and strong ties in community in order to preserve (or restore) health and well-being that has suffered under the harsh hand of uncaring supervisors. As I've said goodbye to good friends who made that choice, we said we would stay in touch, but we haven't. Our community was forever changed. They are heroes for a few.

     But it also takes a special bravery to stay, quietly working beneath the shadows, bringing hope to the hopeless and compassion to those who have given up on love. And for the patient whose only hope is found in the hearts and hands of those who stay to serve, they are also heroes, and will perhaps always remain unknown. It seems love calls us at times to stay, serving from a place of authenticity, a place occupied by the heart and soul.

     Parker Palmer has said that a man or woman can skillfully use a knife to either cause harm or healing, the difference being found not in the external power but in the heart. External power seeks to control, impress, or succeed, and comes and goes with time and change. Fear dwells alongside external power. Sadly, in the hallways of many of our places of healing there are those who would seek to control with fear. Authentic power, however, emerges from within Love and perseveres, even when others would tempt with an easier path, a greater good, or a seemingly safer way.

     The Christian sacred tradition offers the Way of Love, recorded in a letter from St. Paul to the Corinthians. These words seem to me to be words from the heart of a hero:

If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don't love, I'm nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate. If I speak God's Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, "Jump," and it jumps, but I don't love, I'm nothing. If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don't love, I've gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I'm bankrupt without love.
  
Love never gives up.
   Love cares more for others than for self.
   Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.
   Love doesn't strut,
   Doesn't have a swelled head,
   Doesn't force itself on others,
   Isn't always "me first,"
   Doesn't fly off the handle,
   Doesn't keep score of the sins of others,
   Doesn't revel when others grovel,
   Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
   Puts up with anything,
   Trusts God always,
   Always looks for the best,
   Never looks back,
   But keeps going to the end. Love never dies…
. (Scripture taken from The Message).

 

I wonder where are the heroes of our today? How does love inform your way?

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5 responses to “Day 204 – The Way of Love”

  1. ~liz Wessel Avatar
    ~liz Wessel

    I appreciate the perspective you offer today and the opportunity to think of the heroes that are close in our midst. Gosh, as I reflect on the people whom I know I am beginning to realize each one is a hero in his and her own right. I admire their everyday valor to embrace and wrestle with the challenges that are a part of each person’s life. I find my perceptions shifting from what I have thought of, as commonplace are in essence true acts of bravery and courage. I offer up prayers for each one and for all of us. Your message is inspiring and hopeful and you leave us in the unfathomable arms of Love.

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  2. ann kaiser Avatar
    ann kaiser

    Your question of “Where are the heroes of today?” spoke loudly to me. When our media spent so much energy on the recent death of a music star.. I found myself saying…where is the media when one of our cancer patients loses their long battle with cancer, but never lost their faith or their smile. Where is the media in the recent death of my brave young mission friend, who died quietly in Africa, serving out a lifetime of mission work for the underprivlidged? Where is the coverage of the bravery and support given quitely by a fellow co worker to someone having a really bad day? What about the health care worker who sits silently with a dying patient and their family or holding them after the loss? Look at the hallways differently today that you walk and know that you walk among many heroes….and if this finds you not feeling that you are a hero for someone and you question that …then act on that…a dear friend told me “Whatever the Question…Love is the answer” . So go into your day with Love in your heart..Love will find your way.

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  3. Erie Chapman Avatar
    Erie Chapman

    Thanks for this great quote from Beecher and your terrific essay, Cathy. And thank you for lifting the millions of quiet heroes and also for noting the bullies they too often encounter in supervisory roles!

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  4. Diana Gallaher Avatar
    Diana Gallaher

    This is a lovely, meaningful meditation Cathy – and comments too! Thanks too for including the translation of I Corinthians 13 found in The Message.

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  5. MFM Avatar
    MFM

    Cathy thank you for this meditation, it has made me look deep within bringing forward a multitude of emotions.
    It used to be easy to walk down the hallway and identify the Heroes, the colleagues who believed in the mission and vision of our Health System and made a difference one person at a time, serving with true spirit and love.
    I left those halls 2 years ago, and now work for a Tyrant, someone I knew for 9 years and believed he too was a hero with a heart of love and service but have since seen reality. I have received and witnessed the harsh words, seen and felt the crushing of the spirit, and now live with the question why do you stay? Why do you tolerate the injustice? My only conclusion is that the heroes I now walk with stay out of love, and the true desire to make a difference in the lives of those we serve and ultimately the hope that someday he opens his eyes and see’s just what he’s become and wonders where the hero in him has gone.

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