"Preservation of the soul means the palpable presence of some sacred otherness in our labors…" – David Whyte, The Heart Aroused
When you think back to your childhood and your family, what are your happiest memories? Mine have to do with fun. My best memories of my dad are when he was laughing and making us laugh, not when he was lecturing me or disciplining me. The same is true with my friends, not only from that era but from today. Good humor helps preserve our souls. It helps ease "our labors" and enables us to stay open to that "sacred otherness" that is so crucial to our precious humanity.
In my long career working with caregivers, I have rarely seen anything more crucial to success than the introduction of one ingredient that seems to balance all the others. It is fun. Skill is crucial, inspiration is invaluable, and the power of both is catalyzed by our ability to laugh. Absent humor, our work can feel like drudgery.
When our humor fails, burnout can step in to take its place.
When I have been successful giving a speech, it is usually because I tell myself beforehand to "have fun." I literally have to remind myself of think of my public speaking as fun because otherwise I would either be taken over by anxiety or by arrogance: the idea that my speech must be very important and therefore I had better do a transcendent job.
What is your experience? Do you find it difficult to think of the fun aspects of your work? On Monday morning, is it hard to conjure pictures of fun connected to your workplace? If this is so, you have the chance to rethink your attitude toward your calling.
Maybe I need to point out that I am not, of course, talking about laughing all day long (although I do know some good caregivers that seem to carry a nice little chuckle around with them all the time.) What I mean is that fun, suprisingly, is an essential in ingredient to the chemistry of creating sacredness in our work.
If laughter was a happy part of your childhood or of some other part of other part of your life, than you know that those were sacred times for you. Is there a way you might use this knowledge to transform and enhance your life as a caregiver?
-Erie Chapman
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