Journal of Sacred Work

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   I first heard the story, which dates from the 4th century C.E., during divinity school. It concerns a monk named Abba John (below) who was ordered to water a dry stick each day. He did this for three years, hauling water a long distance from an oasis in the desert in order to obey his order. The task took most of each day at the end of which the sticks, of course, were merely wet.

Abba john   At the end of three years, the stick miraculously blossomed. The monk's spiritual father showed the blossoms to the other monks: "Behold, the fruit of obedience," he told them.

   The first thing I wondered about in this strange tale was, What if the stick had never born fruit?" In my view, the example of obedience might be even stronger. 

   There are so many occasions when caregivers are called to "water sticks." Some daily and nightly tasks may seem pointless as well as endless. Sometimes the sticks bloom beautifully, sometimes they don't. It is the sacred effort which always bears fruit, whether seen or unseen. The power of the story of Abba John does not involve mindless obedience to another human. Instead, it suggests deep faith in surrendering to God's Love – consciously, prayerfully, and daily. 

    The guidance of Love is never pointless. The call of Love is never false. 

   Although I was not raised Catholic, I have always admired the faithfulness of the Benedictine monks, beginning in the 6th century, and the loving service of legions of other monks and nuns across centuries. The presence of occasional wrong behavior by a few does not contradict the endless, anonymous gifts of the many. 

   Surrendering to God's Love in our work is a daunting task. Instead of God, first line caregivers are often called to obey supervisors and the rules of organizations and the government. These rules may be important, however, as each of us knows (and perhaps forgets) it is Love that provides the answer to every question. 

   When we live Love, we always succeed.

   How do you accomplish "surrender" to God in your daily work?

-Erie Chapman. 

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4 responses to “Day 257 – God at Work, II – Watering Sticks”

  1. Marilyn Donan Avatar
    Marilyn Donan

    Watering sticks reminded me of one night I was taking care of my terminal husband. He’d fallen asleep; it was 2:00 AM. I decided I wound check all his tubes before getting some sleep as well. All was well. Then I thought I’d check his multiple dressings,too. Of course, they were saturated and needed to be changed. He wouldn’t know whether they were changed, BUT I would know if I didn’t change them.
    After about 30 minutes of work, I was finally finished. John woke up and said, “what are you doing?”
    I said,”I changed all your dressings and now you can sleep.”
    He said, “No, you didn’t…you didn’t do ANYTHING!” He started to get more angry, so I went into the kitchen to get him some sedation. And from the kitchen, I could hear him still yelling,”Nothing. You did absolutely Nothing!” I was a little hurt, but then it struck as funny that he really wanted to win this argument.
    I gave him his sedation, and he drifted back to sleep. I fell alseep satisfied and knowing I’d “watered my sticks.”

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  2. Kelly Roberts Avatar
    Kelly Roberts

    One of the ways I surrender to God is to try and replace my negative thoughts to loving/positive thoughts.This action is not always easy. Some mornings I wake up and my first thought is Oh God!

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  3. Julie Laverdiere Avatar

    I do have to surrender daily in my work to God. Taking care of the vets can be very draining, and I water my stick daily so I am able to greet each vet with the respect and care they deserve. At times that is difficult, but it is very rewarding. I thank God daily for this job.

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  4. ~liz Wessel Avatar
    ~liz Wessel

    I appreciate that you always seem to have a question, Erie, a wondering, and offer us another way to stretch our minds… and for this, I am truly grateful. When I think of surrender what comes to mind is …my wants, which often stem from my ego and my fear of loss. I thought of this today and how I do not want to take anything away from anyone, oh but how I grasp! We live in world based on a win and lose mentality. In order for me to gain, you must lose. This sets up a defensive mindset and a warring world. (By the way, I did read the book, “Anatomy of Peace” while on vacation and I found it enlightening.) Surrender, is a reversal of thought. If someone asks something of me, I will give it willingly, even when the person is being unreasonable (so beautifully illustrated, Marilyn in your encounter with John.) This is the hard part because others often perceive kindness as weakness, rather than courage. If this is so God, then let me be weak… may I listen and watch for your guiding Light of Love.
    I value the loving comments from caregivers today, and I thank you. For when others comment, it enriches the experience of the Journal exponentially for all of us!

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