"When we befriend the twilight side of the heart, we discover a surer tranquility where the darkness and the brightness of our lives dwell together." – John O'Donahue
Someone very dear to me has been experiencing an extremely difficult time. When I asked his best friend how he was doing, she said, "I just want him to be happy." I felt better when I heard this because it sounded simple, non-judgmental and hopeful. "I want him to be happy too," I said.
Then I came upon O'Donahue's line (above) in his book Beauty (The Invisible Embrace.) O'Donahue's insight runs deeper and offers something better, richer, and far more realistic than plain happines. The truth is, we simply cannot be forever "happy" if we are to experience the rich gifts of life.
The painting by Frederic Church (above, 1860) is appealing to us because of the range of colors it displays. Pure sunshine, totally free of shadow and shape, is white and devoid of life.
"The twilight side of the heart" is the place where tranquility and Love reside. Twilight is the home of truth. After all, how can caregivers be perpetually "happy" in the midst of all the pain they experience?
What I love about the gift of O'Donahue's words is that accepting them enables us to embrace every experience of life. It empowers us to accept and observe the darkness, to drink from the better as well as the sweet, to stop beating up ourselves (and our lives.)
We don't have to be "happy" in every moment. We don't have to waste moments ruing our darkness. Instead, we can "befriend the twilight side of the heart." Indeed, we are all "twilight people." How would we know compassion for others if we had never seen the dark? In the twilight, we can live Love.
I wonder if these words make sense to you in your life? Do you find yourself able to befriend darkness?
-Erie Chapman
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