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"Yes, there is a feeling, arising even from another's distress, that wrings the human heart." – Euripides (from the play Electra, 420 B.C.E.)

Clinic for the poor    Inside Euripides sentence (above) lies the core of loving care. God is Love. Human love is God-given.

   Sometimes, we open our hearts to God's Love. We are most alone and fall away from God when we turn our backs on the distress of others.

   As Paul Farmer wrote, "The idea that some lives matter less is the root of all that's wrong with the world."

   Here is a strange tale of two clinics that illustrates this flaw in the human condition.

   One of the faith-based charities in Nashville has two clinics in different parts of the city. While visiting one clinic, a colleague overheard a staff member say, "These poor people are driving me nuts. They are just so stupid." Her partner agreed. In that clinic, the staff arrives late and leaves early. According to interviews and observation, no one goes ever offers special help. And why would they since they think of their clientele as "stupid?"

   Clients opening the door to this first clinic are not likely to receive loving care.

   In the second office, the staff of the same charity is a model of loving care. Caregivers treat their economically poor clients with love and respect. It is common for caregivers to offer extra help and to stay late to do so. Morale is terrific.

   Clients crossing the threshold of the second clinic are very likely to be treated with loving care.

   The mission is the same for both offices. The difference in care is rooted in how the staff of each office views the people they are called to serve. One staff thinks their clients are "stupid" and "matter less" The second group of caregivers sees their clients as children of God.   

   The same dichotomy is common in numerous hospitals. It is startling to watch the range in caring attitudes from one floor to another, from one department to another, from one shift to another. Some caregivers allow God's light to shine through them. Others are so preoccupied with personal concerns that patients are seen as a bother.

   The easiest way to guide organizations toward loving care is to engage loving leaders.The responsibility for this rests squarely on the shoulders of those who govern faith-based organizations.

   For example, hospitals and hospices that display a cross are telling the public that their work is grounded in the example and teachings of Jesus. Don't patients have a right to expect Christian care from a Christian organization?

   God's Love is perfect. We are not. But, we come closer to God when we respect the sick and let go of the pervasive idea that the lives of the poor somehow "matter less." 

   Since we are all children of God, don't we want our brothers and sisters to be treated with love no matter where they go for care?

-Erie Chapman

And something else for your reflection: 

Eli Eli
Miriam Kessler
 
My God, My  God, he cried,
if he is quoted right.
Somehow that moan is comforting
to us, alone at night,
who tremble, daring dawn,
that He, so wise and strong,
should weep and ask for aid.
     Somehow, my lovely distant God,
     it makes me less afraid.
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8 responses to “Days 41-42 – God & The Human Heart – A Tale of Two Clinics”

  1. Elisa (Xiaomei) Pan Avatar
    Elisa (Xiaomei) Pan

    Thank you for the wonderful posting, Mr. Chapman, I am very touched. As a nurse, I always believe that I should not only provide professional care to patients, but also spread love in our society. I agree with you that the difference in care is rooted in how the health professional define their clients, just patients or the children of God.

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  2. ~liz Wessel Avatar

    Paul Farmers quote and this meditation give me pause…with much to consider. The inconsistencies within healthcare ministries are very real. You have hit upon the crux of a problem and you offer us a solution; to engage loving leaders. This morning I hope to share this reflection with our leadership team.
    I also take this to a very personal level of the individual. If only we could really see…when we look into the eyes of another to recognize ourselves how differently might we respond? When we objectify, disrespect, or see another as less than…this is, how we are see and treat ourselves. As you so wisely teach…we have only two choices Love or fear. Underneath it all, I think that we are uncomfortable with our human frailty. We are always striving for perfection in our looks, our lifestyles and how others may perceive us. Always questioning, “Am I good enough, rich enough, smart enough…” Fear motivates an unloving response and so we shun others and avoid looking into the eyes of our own vulnerabilities. Our other choice is to see with sacred eyes, to embrace one another in times of deep need, struggle, vulnerability, pain and suffering and to offer one another the only real choice; a Loving response.

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  3. Karen York Avatar
    Karen York

    Patients/people have a right to expect loving care from any organization, whether faith-based or not. It is incumbant on all of us to teach, model, spread loving kindness to everyone regardless of faith background. We are afraid to see our own frailty reflecting back at us in the more vulnerable of our society.

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  4. Victoria Facey Avatar

    This is such a heartfelt message for today. And I see the love in every response shared. It is sad to hear that this petty type of disccrimination still lives, and in a professional setting, such as a medical facility open to the public. Like the majority of people in Haiti, many poor don’t have control over their lifestyles or their level of judgement/education. However they should be treated with care and respect when they come reach out. We are in no position to judge; since we don’t know what our future will bring, I think humility would certainly keep me in check…

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  5. ~liz Wessel Avatar

    I notice that your meditations bring me to a deeper place of reflection than I might go to on my own; straight to the heart.

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  6. Marily P. Tronco Avatar
    Marily P. Tronco

    I ask for “a heart that is always open to Your love Father”… keeping me alert to anybody’s distress, with respect, acting with a loving response. This I pray also for my friends and all caregivers in the world, in Jesus’ name. Amen.

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  7. xavier espinosa Avatar

    Everyone is someone where they came from, and from the start we are all born children of God. How does one engage a whole organization? It makes it easier when everyone is allowed to nurture and grow their own spirituality after being presented with concepts and choices for choosing how they develop their unique style of caring. We all love differently, so scripted responses, exercises, team incentives all these do nothing to create a loving environment. I believe it comes from promoting an environment filled with integrity, making it safe to take risks and seeing how each one of us expresses the loving kindness that can only be created and shared by the individual.
    I was once asked to coach a coworker who was Egyptian. As a clinician she was wonderful, but she was continually under scrutiny because her patients complained that she was curt in her speech and to them she seemed rude. Her manager wanted her to take accent reduction, customer service skills and other training programs. I asked her to let me meet with her nurse first.
    When I spoke with my coworker she explained that she was following all the coaching and scripting that had been authored to promote a healing environment- but still she was on the losing end.
    I shared with her that both my sisters had married men from the Middle East and that many of my friends came from Arab countries. I told her that one of the traits I loved among my friends was their effusiveness in greeting me. Particularly one of my friends who would yell “Does God know one of his angels has come down to earth? Or am I the lucky one to receive such a heavenly gift as you!” My coworker smiled, laughed, and then began to cry.
    “Do you think it would be alright to not follow the scripts?” she asked. “Know the scripts, know what you want, but say it with your heart and in your own way. Your language is pure poetry” I responded.
    One of my favorite art pieces created by the artist in residence where I worked said it beautifully- In a world without walls- Hearts open, Hands reach across, And the only borders that are left are flowers… Amen

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  8. bds Avatar

    Heart transplant i think that is the most dangerous surgery of all along with the brain surgery but the doctors are great persons that study real hard the human body so they know what they doing .

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