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Jesus Christ 2"Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the world gives." - John 14:27 (NRSV)

   Jesus came to be called the Prince of Peace. His life and words help us understand that peace is not purely a matter of silence and comfort. The world brings us the horror of war and the noise of conflict. In all of this, we yearn for peace. Yet, Jesus tells us we achieve peace by transcending the world. 

   As we live our worldly journey, we find peace through turning our hearts to God's Love. For many of us, this peace may be fleeting, occasionally drowned out by the shouts of life. Yet, those who are the strongest among us have found and settled upon the peace of God. What does this mean to caregivers?

   Through Jesus we discover a sacred mystery described as, "The peace that passes all understanding." What is this peace? How can we achieve it if it "passes all understanding?"  

   This peace can be found. But, not through any intellectual exercise. Instead, caregivers who choose the path of Love will periodically discover the energy of peace as they go about serving others.  

   If we reflect on the life of Jesus, we will see that he is, of course, the model for all seven of Love's energies. Regardless of our faith, Jesus' life and teachings offer a supreme path to understanding the great strength Love offers – and how hard it is for us to live Love in our life as caregivers.

   God's Love is all inclusive. We can all learn from Christ's example.  

   Peace is not found solely through prayer or by sitting in a meditative position beside a quiet brook. It can, of course, be found amid great noise and confusion.

   As Roman soldiers and officials ridiculed and tortured him, Jesus expressed a sense of serenity. This is because his level of faith and inner peace was complete.

   This is the example Mother Theresa followed and it is what those nearby saw in her face as she cared for the dying in the slums of Calcutta. It is also the peace and dignity we saw on the face of Martin Luther King as crowds spit on him and screamed racial epithets and the police aimed fire hoses at him. 

   And it what we see on the faces of loving caregivers – compassion in the presence of anger, skill in the face of rudeness, Love in the presence of hateful behavior.   

  Does this mean we are called to act superhuman? Jesus occupied a human body. We know this because he suffered so profoundly that even he cried out to God from the cross, "Why hast thou forsaken me?"

   Perhaps, this deeply human expression has come from our mouths as well. In the midst of our faith, in the midst of thinking we have found the strength and energy of inner peace, something terrible happens in our lives. A patient we thought would live dies suddenly. A child is killed in an accident. A husband betrays his wife (or vice versa.) A diagnosis of cancer arrives in our ears.

   At times like these, serenity abandons us and we cry out like Christ: "Oh God, why have you forsaken me?"

   Whenever I hear someone say this, as many family members did after 9/11, I can't help but ask why these individuals somehow think they would be exempt from life's assaults. None of us are.

   We have all received plenty of bad news. If we live long enough, we will receive more. If we are able to think more clearly about God as Love, our self-focused questions may fade.

   Tragedy strikes so many every day. God's Love is always there for us no matter what happens.

   For everyone, including caregivers, peace does not live in our hearts as an impenetrable shield. Instead, there are many moments when we may feel it deserting us.

   It is the other way around. Peace lives like Love. It is always present.

   Peace doesn't run from us. In our panic, we run from it. We search desperately for something else to grab onto forgetting that the energy of Love's peace is our only salvation. 

  When we have found true grounding in Love, when we have discovered and engaged all of Love's energy, we will learn the pathway out of trouble and back into our own inner peace.

   Caregivers train themselves to be professional. They learn to express calm in the middle of bloody surgeries in the operating room, mangled limbs in the ER, and sudden death.

   Outward calm is not the same as inner peace. Professionalism appears on the outside based on our training and the instructions from our minds. But the energy of peace flows deeper than our minds and lives as spiritual strength. True professionals, the best caregivers, have found this kind of peace within.

   Caregivers who have found the seventh energy of Love may seem different to us. For example, their cool professional mask softens when needed, allowing them to cry and laugh with their patients.

   I have seen this kind of radical presence in two of the finest and most Loving doctors I know. Dr. Liz Krueger writes about laughing, crying, and praying alongside the parents of babies in the Neonatal Intensive Care unit. Dr. Keith Hagan offers the same gifts when he sits with adult patients distraught over a diagnosis of cancer.

   Cool professionals may not understand this as Love's energy. But, it is. It exists as the best kind of professionalism. The best caregivers I know have allowed Love to inform them what the patient needs, not what they want.

   Peace offers strength. So long as it occupies our human spirit, we will experience a serenity that only Love can bring to us.

   Caregivers sometimes find this in their sacred encounters with patients. Often, it is patients who teach us about peace, not the other way around.

   Gratitude helps us enrich our sense of peace. Resentment, bitterness, anger, all push peace away becase these feelings arise from fear.

   Inner peace, the kind that "passes all understanding" is not something that can be taught in a classroom, Instead, we change first by raising our awareness of this most powerful of all energies of Love.  Second, we accept that this peace is available to us. Third, we picture a new way in our lives - a way in which we first see ourselves as living lives of peace and Love. Finally,we practice this energy of Love.

   The process does not have an end point. Instead, Love is always present. The energy of peace simultaneously opens our hearts and steadies our hands  - especially during the most trying times. As we discover peace in the midst of chaos, we learn that peace can provide us with Love's strength at all times.

   The peace I have described may seem to be something beyond our reach. Backward steps are certain. So long as our journey to Love continues, we will find that peace is already entering our hearts – there to stay so long as we nurture it. There to return after we may have lost our sense of it during some period of panic or fatigue.

   Jesus freed himself from all fear. He did this not by banishing fear, but by expressing Love. His life and teachings offers this example to us all.

-Rev. Erie Chapman .

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7 responses to “Days 104-106 – The Seventh Energy of Radical Loving Care – Peace”

  1. Yvonne Ginez-Gonzales Avatar
    Yvonne Ginez-Gonzales

    When I read this the first thing that came into my mind was “Peace be with you.” from the Catholic church services. I have often experienced the same words used when a priest or chaplain is blessing a patient during their final days of life. Such a simple single syllable word but so meaningful to so many cultures and the people we care for on a daily basis. From me to you – “May PEACE be your guiding light.”

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  2. ~liz Wessel Avatar

    I appreciate that you speak of peace amid the chaos of life. Each day we are challenged to live peace and love by engaging with whatever confronts us. I listened to a story that seems to illustrate your point. It was about a woman who was meditating and when her kids interrupted her, she screamed at them….
    I recognize that I have experienced difficult life events over the past couple of years. I’ve continued to move forward without dwelling on painful emotions. Yet, recently, grief has surfaced and spilled forth at the most inopportune times. It’s as if grief demands my attention and is no longer willing to be ignored. I called out for help and Love answered. Love manifested in the face of others who blessed me with a compassionate response, some I had never even met before. My mask fell and I felt as though God answered me through others. Through this difficult time, I have felt the presence of Love holding me in a most tender and compassionate way. Now, I notice even in the turmoil and the stress of my day moments of just feeling Love’s presence. “Ask and you will receive, knock and the door will be opened.”
    Another helpful insight, among the many that you offer, relates to suffering. I try to pray with a listening heart versus asking God to do something to fix or change my life. Perhaps, I ask for strength, courage, acceptance, insight, wisdom, or an open Loving heart…I read a little book once (and again recently) called, When Bad Things Happen to Good People by Rabbi Harold Kushner. I found it tremendously helpful, especially, when our family was struck by unexpected tragedy.
    Your meditation is received with gratitude…and as Yvonne so beautifully extends, I return, “May PEACE be your guiding light, one and all. ~Amen.

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  3. Maureen McDermott Avatar
    Maureen McDermott

    “Peace be with you too”. In this time of Easter I keep hearing the words of Jesus, “Peace be with you.” These words of Jesus are for us in this very moment where we find ourselves. Jesus is always offering his gift of peace. As we allow the peace of Jesus to overtake us and takeover our fears and what disturbs us may we become a source of peace to all those with whom we come in contact. Thank you Erie.

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  4. Marily Paco Tronco Avatar
    Marily Paco Tronco

    “The peace of God is not the absence of problems; it is the presence of divine sufficiency in the midst of problems”. (Isa. 26:4; Phil. 4:13, 19).
    Thank you for being a blessing. As we partake of what you’ve given, we continually feast on His inner peace. We yield our minds and hearts to Him. Making us continue to choose also, to be a blessing to everyone we meet.

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  5. Barbara Mason Avatar

    Im late, too late for Thursday.
    I appreciate this log so much. My life is in upheavel, more than it should be right now. I’m not working, my husbands health is in Gods hands and I’m working through something from 40 years ago, that I buried, not well enough.
    When I start my day, I thank God for the Day He has given me and when I shower I ask God for His Peace to flow over me like rain. I think of it just falling with the water.
    When Im going through the day and things are off, I usually realize, I forgot to accept, receive the Peace. I forgot the gift He gave me this morning as if it were on the counter. So I pray and reboot my day, CTRL, ALT, Pray.
    I am called to pray for others at the oddest of times and I always use the same term, I ask God to cover, embrace, flow His peace over that person. It doesnt take the tough spots of the day go, but it helps me realize his Peace includes His handling of my crisis or my patients illness, health,etc. His peace flows through me, when I slow down enough to allow it. His Peace leads me into a sacred encounter with strangers. So for Friday, those of you who came back, May GODS PEACE, BE WITH YOU, GODS PEACE FLOW OVER YOU AND COVER YOU FOR THE DAY. MAY GODS PEACE GIVE YOU WHAT YOU NEED IN THE MOMENT. GODS PEACE BE WITH YOU

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  6. Erie Chapman Avatar
    Erie Chapman

    Special thanks to each of you for your comments. You are, yourselves, angels for the way you carry peace and Love to others through your work as caregivers.
    Based on the contribution of Marily Paco Tranco, I have today supplemented this post with a further reference to some of the words on peace from Jesus. These words may further help our understanding of this complex concept.

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  7. Victoria Facey Avatar

    I am sometimes not able to respond to some of your reflections until days later, however this post and the responses has really touched my heart.
    I need to find peace amidst my current chaos and uncertainty. Funny, when you know something’s off and can’t pinpoint it until you learn of it from others. Erie, I’ve read this reflection twice and now I feel calmer and hopeful.

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