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   There is no room for the scared inside the circle of the sacred. What is  holy is free of fear.  

   It's odd how the words sacred and scared sound so much alike. With the exchange of but two letters, scared becomes its opposite just as fear is the opposite of Love. And the only effective treatment for fear is Love.  

   One message that comes from many in our country is that a great way to deal with fear is to keep a gun nearby. After all, the American Constitution, written in the wake of the Revolutionary War by men raised in primitive surroundings, protects our right to bear arms.

   My father, raised in part on his grandfather's farm, raised me with guns. He taught me to respect them rather then to be scared by them. Hunting was a sacred ritual in his eyes. His grandfather, a veteran of the Civil War, had used guns to kill for food as well as to protect himself. Guns were a good thing, I was taught.

   I shot my first rabbit with a blast from my .410 gauge shotgun at a distance of eighty feet (my proud father stepped it off.) But, as a kid, I was appalled to discover, upon approaching my victim, that the rabbit was still alive. A blow from the butt of my father's gun ended that. 

   I knew I was supposed to be tough as well as proud so I accepted Dad's congratulations. Inside, I felt sickened that I had killed not for food, but for fun.  

   So often we, as caregivers, pick the wrong weapons to deal with our life and our fears. Doctors over treat because they are scared of lawsuits. Many nurses follow rules slavishly even if adherence is damaging to loving care. When they do this, they act from fear and defeat the sacred.,   

   Saint Thomas Beckett, who fought for the church against the power of King Henry II, is reported to have said, "We are all God's fools." I saw that recently when I decided to nurture the memory of the gun-loving days of my childhood. For the first time since I wa a kid, I went to a local shooting range, rented a 9 mm pistol, and went through a box of shells firing at a target. Somehow, it seemed like it would be fun to shoot, this time, not at an animal but at a paper rectangle.  

   What struck me was the looks on the faces of the others I saw there. I didn't see men comforted by guns. Instead, I saw fear in their eyes. Scared, they go to guns for comfort and thus push back the sacred from their lives.

   What fools we are to think that violence can protect us or that science is our only weapon to treat illness. Jesus carried no weapon but Love. Why do we think we need any more than that?

-Rev. Erie Chapman

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4 responses to “Days 247-248 – The Scared & The Sacred”

  1. ~liz Wessel Avatar

    It seems that your father inadvertently taught you a very valuable lesson and what a beautiful lesson it is. More often than I want to admit, I feel fear. It comes in the form of worry, have I let someone down, does my life have meaning, what about the emptiness I feel?
    Yet, expressing love, being loving, giving loving service, overflows in an expansive way that I can physically feel as a sensation in my heart. I was reflecting on how good it feels to express love. For many it is not comfortable to openly convey love. Some like to kid others often at the expense of another. A family close to me has adopted this kind of humor. My style of communication is very aberrant to them. To offer kindness and authentic affirmation has become more natural to me. Personally, I attribute this as growth and in a large part due to my participation in this Journal community for the past four years (and for this, I am forever grateful).
    Fear occurs most when I see my self as separate from God, from my fellow human beings, when I see myself as isolated and alone, when I decide and then ask for guidance. Love returns when I ask before deciding and then listen for the answer.

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  2. Suan Geh Avatar
    Suan Geh

    Erie: how true it is that “inside the sacred” there is no fear. This reminds me of the Psalm “Though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no evil for though art with me Thy rod and staff they comfort me” The “shadow of death” may be within us – our minds or emotions within us or circumstances outside of us not within our control. When we are “inside the sacred” we rise above our fears and is able to provide radical loving care to our patients.

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  3. Victoria Facey Avatar
    Victoria Facey

    Ironically, I began to respond to the journal yesterday and mispelled the word “sacred”. I spent time staring at my word, “scared”. So I returned today to complete my comments.
    In a moment, the word scared (term/feeling) can render you immobile. Most times you can’t think forward, or see yourself through a situation for the fear factor. We tend to panic, with the thought of the possible wrong involved. Not realizing that we have the opportunity to make it right, and turn this moment into a Sacred Encounter.
    On the plus side, later when you look back, you realize that there was really nothing to be afraid of to begin with. If only we would step back to pray, or meditate for five minutes to find the calm inside. Again, another “easier said than done” situation…

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  4. Marily Avatar

    This reflection reminded me of the famous hymn, “What a Friend We Have in Jesus.” Written by Joseph Scriven in 1855, recognized 30 years later, who shared the honor, saying, “The Lord and I did it between us.” He composed a few verses for the consolation of his aging mother. The tune was contributed by Charles C. Converse, a lawyer/composer, named it “Erie” after the Pennsylvania town where he practiced law.
    What a friend we have in Jesus, All our sins and griefs to bear, What a privilege to carry Everything to God in prayer. O what peace we often forfeit, O what needless pain we bear, All because we do not carry Everything to God in Prayer.
    Have we trials and temptations, Is there trouble anywhere? We should never be discouraged Take it to the Lord in prayer. Can we find a friend so faithful, Who will all our sorrows share? Jesus knows our every weakness, Take it to the Lord in prayer.
    Are we weak and heavy laden, Cumbered with a load of care? Precious Savior still our refuge, Take it to the Lord in prayer. Do thy friends despise, forsake thee? Take it to the Lord in prayer. In His arms He’ll take and shield thee Thou wilt find a solace there.

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