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    It is suddenly warm across the south. As I "greeted this day" (in the language of Liz Wessel's lovely weekend essay) I was startled to find something strange in our February garden.

    Atop green shoots, buds are forming. Nearby, weeds arrive as unwelcome as Cinderella's sisters.

   There is no more common or powerful metaphor for hope than spring. When it arrives early, we almost hesitate to believe its promise for fear winter will charge back and trample our trust.

   In April of 2004, my brother-in-law, dying of cancer, faced his last spring. I wondered if it was painful. "I've seen lots of springs," he told my sister, as if one more might not matter. But, such responses often mask a sadness within. All who Love, love spring.

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   Elsewhere in our garden, my wife has planted a reminder of something even more hopeful than spring itself. "Friends are the flowers in the garden of life," the sign reads.

   For those of us lucky to have dear friends, we know those relationships have no season. Friends need no springtime sun and rain to nurture their Love into being.

   The demands placed on full-time caregivers mean that most spend more time with co-workers than they do with their family. How fortunate when co-workers become our friends as well as our colleagues.

   We may even spawn a kind of friendship with our patients, most of whom spend just a few days with us.  Length of acquaintance may not always be the sole determinate of a quality encounter. We can meet many new friends every day – the cashier, the store clerk, or, as happened to me recently, the woman sitting next to me on the plane. During our two hour flight, we struck up a terrific sense of knowing as we exchanged stories.

   As I de-planed in Nashville, she headed on to Chicago. It is very unlikely that I will see her again. Yet, that brief, plane-ride friendship was a spring surprise.

   Sometimes, friends come from even more unexpected places. On some occasions, people I once thought of as enemies have since become friends.

   Though I once thought otherwise, I now believe this: Love knows no enemies.

   How will you "greet this day?" What new friends will appear?

-Erie Chapman 

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7 responses to “Days 52-54 – Flowers, Friends & Spring”

  1. ~liz Wessel Avatar

    This is a lovely reflection of spring and of friendship, Erie. Yet, your insightful concluding statement really adds perspective, “Though I once thought otherwise, I now believe this: Love knows no enemies.” Unfortunately, so often, it is only when all is said and done, that this becomes crystal clear. May we live in awareness of this truth with each day that we are blessed to be here.

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  2. Karen York Avatar
    Karen York

    An old adage comes to mind…in order to make a friend, you must be a friend…or something like that. Being a quiet person, my mom always encouraged me to be more outgoing and friendly. Over the years I have taken her advice and gained more and more confidence as I age. I find that it brightens my day, and hopefully that of someone else by being lovely in their presence. Love knows no enemies and breaks through barriers of loneliness and pain.

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  3. Marily Avatar

    I believe in this too, that our “relationships have no season, Friends need no springtime sun and rain to nurture their Love into being.”
    Friends we know from long ago, from our elementary, high school or college days… when they start showing up even just in facebook, they bring full spring surprises, for these we are blessed.

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  4. ~liz Wessel Avatar

    “We cannot tell the precise moment when friendship is formed. As in filling a vessel drop by drop, there is at last a drop which makes it run over. So in a series of kindness there is, at last, one which makes the heart run over.”
    ~James Boswell

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  5. Victoria Facey Avatar
    Victoria Facey

    Erie, what a lovely tale of budding flowers, friendships and seasons! I too get excited when I see blooms of bright flowers – but I do worry if things are moving too quickly for our plants and trees (global warming fears). I’ll smile all the same, as the highways here are so colorful!
    I also relate so well with the small friendships that arrive before you can finish a cup of coffee. My husband says I’m too friendly with strangers, but there is a gift there when you strike a common chord while you’re out in the world. A few times these friendships have grown into relationships and for that I’m always happy…

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  6. ann kaiser Avatar
    ann kaiser

    I will never forget the spingtime day I shared with my girlfirend , Sherrie, looking out the window with her , to her backyard , which was full of blooms, a garden full of flowers.
    That spring moment started the fall before when all of Sherrie’s girlfriends gathered at her home. Sherrie had been diagnosed with terminal breast cancer and failing quickly. My girlfriends and I came prepared with a bag of bulbs each and proceeded to make her a garden in her back yard. We pulled out grass and planted bulbs..everywhere. We told her to hang on for the spring, for the flowers that would come. That gave her hope and something to hang onto. Tears of joy flowed that day. Tears of sadness flowed when we lost our friend that summer. So it is true, drop by drop, a vase runs over, but the petals of friendships..that makes the heart run over.

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  7. ~liz Wessel Avatar

    The beauty of friendship, when we can share in each others pain and take solace in Love. Thanks for sharing such a tender story, Ann.
    “I have just three things to teach:
    simplicity, patience, compassion
    Those three are your greatest treasures.
    Simple in actions and in thoughts,
    you return to the source of your being.
    Patient with both friends and enemies,
    you accord with the way things are.
    Compassionate toward yourself,
    you reconcile all beings in the world.”
    ~Lao-Tzu

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