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 "It is in the shelter of each other that the people live." Irish Proverb

Ireland Mar 2011 280 My grandmother, Catherine Carter, left her homeland of Ireland at the young age of seventeen. She set sail for America seeking adventure with a burning desire to live out the dreams of her potential. Cate was the oldest of six children. Her brother Charlie (age 12) took her in a horse drawn carriage to the waterfront port. Her youngest brother, David was so upset with her leaving that he ran and hid and did not say goodbye.  Ireland Mar 2011 275

Kate traveled the long ocean journey alone. She arrived in New York and worked as a governess. She married James Lawler and together they raised six children. Cate never returned to Ireland. She never set eyes on her family again, never felt their warm embrace; never heard the love in their voices.

Mom often recounted stories for us of grandma’s family life on a farm in Ballyquirke, Gowran, Co. Kilkenny. I’ve held fond images in my mind as I imagined her family life in this far off distant land. Through the years, my brothers and sisters dreamed of taking mom to visit Ireland but the “right time” never came to be.

Recently, a friend invited me to accompany her on a trip to Ireland. Initially, I did not see how I could possibly go due to circumstances and the timing was “not quite right.” Then something in me said, “say yes!” I decided I could not pass up this opportunity.

I fell in love with the people I met in Ireland. Although, I only spent a short day and a half with my relatives it was a deeply emotional experience for me.  The Carter family all live near to one another and most within a three-mile radius. They see each other often and life is wonderfully communal. We spent an evening in the kitchen, a group of women talking in their lyrical sing-song way. They spoke of nothing consequential, yet of everything that matters.

Ireland Mar 2011 391 I discovered something very precious in their way of life.  I was completely taken in by their warm hospitality. I experienced a longing to stay with them and I did not want to leave. I was homesick for my newly met family and their enchanting way of being and living life as I had never known.

Although, I knew I would soon leave Ireland I wanted to keep this gift of hospitality alive within. I’ve been reflecting on the meaning of hospitality and next week I will share more about this with you.

~liz Sorensen Wessel

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9 responses to “Days 77-78 In the Shelter of Each Other”

  1. Maria Doglio Avatar
    Maria Doglio

    Liz: your story brought tears as we have similar stories and I felt so nostalgic for the old ones–except mine stems from Italy and my granparents journey’s on both sides left their families to seek better lives. I grew up with stories of the home land, asking to hear them over and over again. In the 80’s I went to visit Meldola, where my Mother’s families and neighbors emmigrated from. It truely felt like coming home and people I had never met opened their arms. I didn’t want to come home either! It makes me reflect on how important community is and our connectedness with each other within it. It all surrounds support, tolerance, friendship and love–it starts within the family,spreads to community, country and on to our global communities/family. Today, it often feels like we’ve made ourselves separate in so many ways, but I see us coming around again remembering how important community connections-local to global, are vital to our health and well being–physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

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  2. erie chapman Avatar
    erie chapman

    What a beautiful essay, Liz. Thanks you for bringing light to all of us with your lovely story-telling. I am grateful for the way you helped us travel to where you have been.

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  3. Marily Avatar

    It must have been a great feeling being warmly welcomed far from home yet so near, close to your roots Liz. … I checked out your beautiful pictures, their peaceful gifts… are too, a touch of you.

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  4. Woody Wessel Avatar
    Woody Wessel

    Home is said to be a place that when you go there they have to let you in. It’s nice when their glad to see you too.

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  5. Maureen McDermott Avatar
    Maureen McDermott

    Another wow experience for you, Liz. I’m delighted that you had that opporunity to connect into that part of your family journey – the spirit and life that are you and so closely linked to your family in Ireland. No wonder John O’Donohue touches your Celtic spirit.

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  6. ~liz Wessel Avatar

    Thank you dear friends; Maria, Erie, Marily, Woody and Sr. Maureen for your loving affirmations. I thought I might share this wonderful e-mail response I received with all of you. Blessings expanding out to bless anew. For this I am grateful and for your presence in my life I am elated.
    “Liz, I’m so glad you had the chance to meet your distant family and kindle a new relationship. Life takes strange turns and twists when we are open to the adventure.
    One of my favorite quotes is from Dom Heider Camara, Archbishop of Reife, Brazil”
    “Accept surprises that upset your plans, shatter your dreams, give a completely different turn to your day, and –who knows?—to your life, it is not chance. Leave the Father free to weave the pattern of your days.”

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    susan

    What a wonderful opportunity to connect with your family in Ireland!!!! I know that you have always wanted to explore your family and your roots on Ireland. How nice that you met them and how nice that they met you too!!!

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  8. Maryanne Garon Avatar
    Maryanne Garon

    We did not find any of our family on our trip to Ireland, but it was extraordinary to stand on the street where my grandmother grew up. I felt an incredible connectedness with Ireland and the people. What a wonderful experience for you to actually spend time with family, Liz!

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  9. Visionconsultingla.wordpress.com Avatar

    Dear Liz,
    I am so glad you “said yes” to this trip to your homeland! What a wonderful story, and the photos are so beautiful and revealing.
    Thanks for sharing this with us. I hope to go to Ireland, too. My relative left there in 1846 to travel to Kentucky.
    Be well my friend!
    Carolyn Olney

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