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   What if I notice the sun flaming through autumn trees at dawn and decide to tell a friend what I saw? How should I describe my experience? Do the words I choose matter?

   Here are a few choices: "I saw the sun coming through the trees this morning. Interesting." And another, "The sun coming through the trees this morning was so awesome!" Or, "The dawn sun cut one autumn tree into a stained glass window."

   The word "interesting" doesn't tell us much. And we have so bludgeoned the fine old word "awesome" with overuse that the word no longer carries power. The third choice may not be the best, but it at least gives us an image to provoke our thinking and thus to deepen our experience of Beauty.

   Words often determine our humanity. When we work to find the right ones, we can enrich life experience and affirm God's Love. 

   When we use the wrong ones, we can get a result like this:

    In 1978, a six-year old child of God came home from school to find his rural Tennessee home empty. His parents had deserted him. He lived alone in the house for three days until neighbors lent help. Across the next eight years, the rejected child lived in nineteen different homes.

   At fifteeen, the runaway stole a tractor-mower and sold it for two hundred dollars and moved into a cardboard box. 

   At sixteen, the juvenile delinquent spent a few months in jail for theft.

   At twenty-one, the criminal went off to prison.

   At twenty-nine, the murderer entered his cell on Death Row.

   At thirty-nine, #321012 remains on Death Row wondering if he will live to see his fortieth birthday.

   The words the world used to describe my friend Glenn got steadily more degrading after his parents deserted him. He went from child of God to child on the run, to juvenile delinquent, to criminal, to murderer, to a man condemned to die by lethal injection. 

   Do words matter? It's hard to kill a human. It's not as hard to execute a number.

   It's hard to kill a child of God. It's easier when we use the word "murderer."

   But this is not about the death penalty, or even about the labels that have torn down Glenn's life ever since he was old enough to learn words.

   This is about the patient in room 3012. Is the patient "the gall bladder" or "the woman with gall bladder disease?" 

   If she's "the gall bladder" it's not so hard to ignore her call light. If she's a woman, then we, as humans, need to help.

   We need to find better words than "awesome" to describe Beauty. Calling a human being "the gall bladder" degrades us as well as the being in our care.

   We don't all need to be poets. Yet, finding more humane language tells us whether we are living in God's Light, or walking in the half tones of shallow experience.

Reverend Erie Chapman 

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5 responses to “Days 329-330 – How Words Shape Humanity”

  1. candace nagle Avatar
    candace nagle

    I am in tears because your words are true. When we use words to reduce a person, or any live creature, to a function or an object status, we are denying them and ourselves the full beauty of relationship and existence. We are creating more suffering. In the health care realm, as we work with less resources and more time constraints, the danger of reducing a person to a diagnosis (with its prescribed meaning and outcome) is greatly increased. Not only does this create a risk that we will not see the entire person and may miss some medical complication, it denies them their personhood. And that is an unethical profanity.
    It falls onto our shoulders and hearts to be sure, that at least, in this one instance, with you or I, our patients will be seen, heard, and touched by a loving hand…regardless of the pressures to do otherwise.

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  2. Maria Doglio Avatar
    Maria Doglio

    In my procrastination to get ready for work, I stopped by here to read your thoughts. Erie, this is an beautiful essay from the heart, not only about the power of words but about the human condition.
    Words can carry the reader so they are feeling, seeing and smelling the scene—the sharpness of the crisp autumn air and the nutty smell of fallen autumn leaves blazing with color as the sun filled the sky with dawn light….conjures up for me wonderful memories of my childhood in Connecticut, with feelings of nostalgia.
    As for Glen, the human being, it seems that he is not only a product of neglect from parents and society but also of his own choices, which he is now being made responsible to answer to. I am not an advocate of the death penalty, but an advocate of compassion and rehabilitation for everyone with understanding of the trials that a human being has gone through to push him to where he is today. Lack of love and direction for a child can do terrible damage. I hope Glen understands that he is still a child of God. He moved so far away from the soul spark that is his center that he forgot it, society forgot it and he lost his potential. But I don’t think you forgot it. You recognize his light, no matter how deeply it is buried.

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  3. ~liz Wessel Avatar

    I can not offer anything as eloquent as Candace or Maria…however, when I think about the tragic unfolding of Glen’s life I take comfort in knowing that you have entered into his life, Erie to befriend and to walk alongside him. I can only imagine what it means to Glen. Thank you for reflecting Beauty in your words and more importantly in your actions.

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  4. Marily Avatar

    How powerful are these words we see, as it reflects the energies with which it creates us… as we build each other or as we degrade, the choice is ours. May we always wait for the morning sunlight to find it’s smiling on us… in faith, believing it’s God’s light carrying us through. Thank you Rev. Erie.

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  5. טיפול בטחורים Avatar

    I like your words regarding the terms the community used to explain my buddy Glenn got continuously more degrading after his mom and dad abandoned him. He went from kid of God to kid on the run, to child behind, to legal, to killer, to a man ruined to die by deadly shot.

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