…They listened at his heart.
Little-less-nothing!-and that ended it.
No more to build on there. And they, since they
Were not the one dead, turned to their affairs.
-Robert Frost, from "Out, Out-"

Having now written hundreds of entries to you, I begin to worry that I repeat myself. I know I've shared with you something I could once make happen when I was running hospitals. Now, I hope to count on you to create this in your setting. The idea is from a Harvard Medical School resident doctor who thought of it after she attended a code which "failed."
"After the patient was pronounced dead," she said, "everyone turned and just walked away." The majesty of the team effort to save a life vanished the moment spirit left body. Each member of the code team, "…since they/Were not the one dead, turned to their affairs."
The Harvard doctor saw a clear and elegant solution. She proposed that at the end of a code, if the patient dies, the head of the code team would simply ask the group to pause for about ten seconds "to honor the life of this person."
I am so pleased that at least one hospital, Mercy Gilbert in Arizona, has adopted this practice. It is heart-breaking to me that Mercy Gilbert is the only place I know whose CEO, Laurie Eberst, has had the passion and persistence to make this beautiful practice come alive.
Why is this idea so important? Because this new, caring-code ritual honors not only the humanity of the person who has died, but the humanity of the team that sought to save that life. Absent such loving rituals, the work of saving lives runs the risk of becoming transactional instead of transcendent.
There is something you can do about this. Pass along the new code ritual idea (and perhaps this essay) to people in your organization who can implement this change. We are "not the one dead." We can turn away to other matters, or we can introduce a small and beautiful change into our corner of the world. It's a little thing, and a big thing. It's the kind of turn that opens the door to Love's light.
What do you think? Let us know if this works in your setting.
-Erie Chapman
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