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"…the colour we perceive is the remains of the other colours which have been absorbed." – John O'Donahue

   I recall a conversation I had awhile back with the CEO of a large hospital system about the concept of Radical Loving Care. I described to him the way in which work cultures can be reshaped. 

   "People don't change," he said disdainfully. The opposite may be true. We are someone a little different each dawn, and perhaps each hour as our expressions and personality shape-shift across our days. Leaders, in particular, need to understand this so they may appreciate the vast potential within the places they guide. 

Old-man
   The truth about color change lives in O'Donahue's line, above, from his book, Beauty – Rediscovering the Sources of Compassion, Serenity and Hope. Each of us carries within us the full spectrum of light and dark. Every caregiver has the ability to pick from the palette of their personality the hue they will present to their world.

   Equally important, each patient before us represents multiple colors. No patient exists only as the gray illness we may perceive. Can we see, in the image of the old man, the baby, the teenager, and the young adult he once was? Can our Love help us change our perception enough to recognize elegance in the aged form before us?

   For example, it is a great sadness to see the way in which so many elderly patients are treated in hospitals and nursing homes – as if they were a single dull color barely worth a glance from the eyes of youth. Every person of age holds a particularly rich life-painting within. It is up to caregivers to respect each patient as holding "the remains of other colours which have been absorbed" within the fabric of their illness.

   The classification system hospitals often use can steal our color and demean our humanity. No patient's life is one color. No patient is just "a gallbladder" or "a knee" or "the diabetic."  We are all rainbows waiting to be seen. Can we flex our spirits enough to see the rainbows in each other person?

-Erie Chapman   

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4 responses to “Day 284 – The Color of Life”

  1. Victoria Facey Avatar

    Erie, what a profound description of an elderly person – grey. I agree with you and also notice that the senior population is often viewed as faded, background figures, sometimes void of the dignity of acknowledgment and respect that they deserve. I am drawn to older persons, due in part being raised by my grandmother and interacting with great aunts and uncles.
    My favorite thing is to begin a conversation with an older stranger and to see their eyes light up when the subject is on older movies or television shows, decade-old stories, or recalling events from their time.
    What a wonderful thing to give time and care to an older person who yearns for a little attention!

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  2. Beverly Grant Avatar
    Beverly Grant

    John Prine has a great song called “Hello in There” (also recorded by Bette Midler) that tells the story of one couple who has experienced life with victories and losses. The chorus says:
    “You know that old trees just grow stronger,
    and old rivers grow wilder every day,
    but old people, they just grow lonesome
    waiting for someone to say,
    “Hello in there. Hello”
    The ending of the song encourages us to connect with them, wherever we meet them in our own lives.
    “So if you’re walking down the street sometime
    and you should spot some hollow ancient eyes,
    don’t you pass them by and stare
    as if you didn’t care.
    Say, “Hello in there. Hello”

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  3. ~liz Wessel Avatar

    Today’s meditation is tender, yet poignant. When we look with the eyes of the world we see only the surface but when we look with the eyes of the heart we see only what is real, Love. In many ways, home care is unique because we are invited as guests into the lives of the people that we care for. Rather than an impersonal hospital environment where the patient seems stripped of his/her identity, we enter into the very, sacred space of a person’s home. We are privileged to see the many colors and rich fabric of their lives in the surroundings, photographs, and in who/what they love. “We are all rainbows waiting to be seen,” stands out for me, as I realize how desperately I too wish to be seen.
    The following is a poem by O’Donohue which I hope you and your reader’s will enjoy.
    Beannacht, (the Gaelic word for blessing) by ~John O’ Donohue
    On the day when
    the weight deadens
    on your shoulders
    and you stumble,
    may the clay dance
    to balance you.
    And when your eyes
    freeze behind
    the grey window
    and the ghost of loss
    gets in to you,
    may a flock of colours,
    indigo, red, green,
    and azure blue
    come to awaken in you
    a meadow of delight.
    When the canvas frays
    in the curach of thought
    and a stain of ocean
    blackens beneath you,
    may there come across the waters
    a path of yellow moonlight
    to bring you safely home.
    May the nourishment of the earth be yours,
    may the clarity of light be yours,
    may the fluency of the ocean be yours,
    may the protection of the ancestors be yours.
    And so may a slow
    wind work these words
    of love around you,
    an invisible cloak
    to mind your life.

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  4. Diana Gallaher Avatar
    Diana Gallaher

    I have often wondered as I’m sitting in an examining room with my elderly mother and father if the physician sees the young girl living in Nashville who was very good at roller skating or the young man welding on submarines at Pearl Harbor in his early 20’s. Or do they just see the woman with dementia and her husband who can’t stop himself from answering for her?
    Of course they can’t see what they don’t know. But there is so much more there than what is on the surface. I still look at an elderly stranger and often just see an old person. But I’m trying to be mindful of the richness, beauty of life that is not visible perhaps on the surface.

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