Journal of Sacred Work

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"We are all equal. But, some are more equal than others." – George Orwell, from Animal Farm Linus - eyes - soft  
 
   Only minutes old, my grandson looks out of his new eyes for the first time. He entered the world on May 24, 2010 in an afternoon filled with a light you see reflected in his eyes – or is that the light cast by the love of his mother and father?   

   What a gift he is in our lives. What luck for him – a healthy mother and father, a healthy older sister, four adoring grandparents. This healthy newborn now takes his place among humanity.

   Healthy? That's the natural question everyone asks: Is he healthy?

   We know he would be no less human if he were unhealthy. Or, if he had been born into poverty on the streets of Calcutta.

   We know that is true. But, the world behaves otherwise. It tells us "some are more equal than others."

   Society ranks and sorts us instantly. As Dr. Rollo May wrote, "One does not become fully human painlessly."

   How we are labeled determines whether we are treated as fully human. How we treat others determines whether we are listening to God's Love. 

   In the eyes of American society were slaves human? Not according to the United States Supreme Court which ruled in 1857 (in the infamous Dred Scott Decision) that slaves should be counted as "three-fifths of a person." Native Americans, those who occupied this country long before it was taken over by European Americans, fared even worse.

   Today, in the twenty-first century, are prisoners fully human? Some Wednesdays I head out to a Nashville area prison to minister to inmates. I travel through seven gates before I finally reach the area where 100 prisoners are sealed off from society. Each steel gate slams home a message: Anyone caged like this must not be as human as are we.

   Once a person is convicted, our society rapidly dehumanizes them. We don't see a person anymore. We see a criminal.

   When people see others this way, they have degraded another human being to becoming "less than" fully human. In so doing, they degrade themselves.

   Are patients fully human? Take off your clothes, put on a patient gown, and walk into a hospital. In most hospitals, you will instantly be seen, intentionally or not, as something less than fully human. You will become "the gall bladder" not the person, "the knee" not the person, "the diabetic," not the person.

   After all, you are "unhealthy" and you look completely helpless. You are weak and thus can fall victim to the strong. In the hierarchy of things, you sit (or lie) at the bottom. The folks at the top wear stethoscopes or business clothes. In the proverbial pecking order, doctor's scrubs win big over patient gowns.

   If this seems like a harsh judgment, go ahead and try it. See how you do getting the attention of an overworked nurse if you're wearing a patient gown. Count how long you wait on a gurney in a hallway waiting to be x-rayed.

   The human treatment of hospitalized patients got so bad that the government finally stepped in. A public website now publishes patient satisfaction statistics. Hospitals with consistently low scores may jeopardize their Medicare reimbursement status. At last, administrators began to take notice.

   The problem, of course, has not been first line caregivers. It has been leaders who looked down on caregivers as "the lower employees" (I've heard this phrase many times.) In addition, our healthcare system crowds out humanity in favor of efficiency. Can't we have both?

   Among the best-treated patients in hospitals are babies like my grandson (especially since circumcisions without anesthesia have fallen out of favor!) Newborns are not only helpless, but they look so cute. The elderly among us are not so lucky.

   We know the answer to this tragedy. Caregivers who live Love honor the full humanity of those who come to them sick or injured or both. In a Healing Hospital, loving leaders don't look down on first line staff, they look UP to them. For it is the first line caregivers who have the greatest impact, not the executives.

   The only way I know to solve the issue of patient discrimination is for us to accept that it is a real and serioius problem, to visualize a new culture flooded with loving care, and to live that culture of Love.

   The reason to do this is not because either the government or a supervisor is watching. It is because God is watching.

   God's Love offers the strength we need. When we open our hearts to this Love we see through a sacred lens.

   With this vision, we discover that a new light surrounds those people in the hallway wearing patient gowns. It is the light that illuminates full humanity and deep vulnerability - ours as well as theirs.

-Rev. Erie Chapman

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9 responses to “Days 149-150 – Fully Human”

  1. Victoria Facey Avatar
    Victoria Facey

    Erie, first of all – congratulations on the birth of your beautiful and quite human grandson!
    You touch on a few subjects close to my heart in today’s journal; one I can readily respond to is the issue of the insulting question of “is the baby healthy”. The baby begins life with love, and the prayer is that she/he is welcomed into the arms of the parent, family and caregiver with love and joy for their very being. Anything after that should be dealt with patience and understanding.
    Another subject is being judged by how we are labeled; what a sad state to put anyone in. As you move through life finding yourself, someone wastes time and energy to judge and label you, usually out of their own ignorance.
    Again, thank you for today’s message and Happy Grandparent tidings to you…

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  2. ~liz Wessel Avatar

    It scares me to think about how easy it is to objectify people with labels distancing ourselves from the person and our humanity. Previous experiences and hurts color our perceptions. We learn from an early age to mold and conform ourselves so that we are accepted and belong to our group. Yet, this is coupled with an underlying tension of wanting space and the desire to claim our freedom.
    Later in life, you wake up one day and begin to wonder where is your true self in all of this? Have you lost touch completely, whose voice do you hear, anyway? Can you recognize it as your own, would you even know it if you heard it? We get so caught up in the ways of this world and after all the chasing we are left feeling empty. Yet, the good news is we can return home and begin to look within for what we have neglected for so long, a relationship with self and God. Suddenly, position in life, job roles, material possessions do not matter. As you so eloquently stated, when we see with a sacred lens we only see our brothers and sisters. Then we can reach out to one another in the middle of darkness and Love will light our way.
    Thanks for this enlightening reflection.

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  3. Kelly Roberts Avatar
    Kelly Roberts

    I know when I use Love as the lens to see others I treat others so much better. I become more patient and kind. Thank you Erie for the encouragement and congratulations on the birth of your grandson. What a gift of Love from Above!

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  4. Marily Avatar
    Marily

    Congratulations Rev. Erie, he got your eyes… 🙂
    “Life magic”. God’s love revealed. Now I see how strong your passion got to be in building the healing Hospital in America and to every Land. You are living your life to the full, you are doing what you love and believe. Thank you for writing, it brings clarity as it gives meaning is healing. As we commit to God’s work, with sacred eyes may we see everyone, as we enjoy the work we are made for, “caring for patients and others with love, creating forces that will reveal magic that is already there”.

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  5. Sue Avatar
    Sue

    Congratulations on a bright eyed , aware and curious little grandson.. How fortunate you are to be able to share this with your family.What is his name? Holding little ones takes all your cares away.

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  6. Xavier Espinosa Avatar
    Xavier Espinosa

    A few years back while at my former employer, I was asked to speak at the annual School of Business “End of the Year Dinner and Gala” for a large university. This was a rather auspicious event because the Healthcare Management and Administration program was celebrating it’s 25th anniversary. On the speaker’s roster was the current dean, the founding dean, three former graduates, the current top graduating student in the program and me. Yours truly was chosen to speak because I was associated with an internship site provider that had developed a program designed for minority students and because I personally was recommended to speak by several students past and present who felt that I had made a considerable impact in their professional choices and personal lives.
    At this very formal event the current dean welcomed, the founding dean related how he developed the program and how he enjoyed his retirement, and the former graduates all shared with the students how much their life had changed for the better. They spoke of higher incomes and better lifestyle, they spoke of the benefits of networking, they spoke of evaluating your prospective employers and how their educational experience could be used as a leverage for higher paying jobs. I had prepared a small speech but decided not to use it because my message needed to be changed. I began my address by saying “I feel like I have been riding train with all of you, knowing that we would be getting off together a the next station and knowing what I would find would be different than what I was expecting, but I am sad to say that I stepped off onto a platform in a place where no-one speaks any language that I was prepared to hear” Not one of the speakers mentioned patients, not one of the speakers mentioned working in health care systems because they wanted to heal.
    This is what effects the relationship between the front-line caregiver and the patient. While those providing direct patient care enter the health care field perhaps because of their love for humanity, their desire to give, are being told how to practice their craft by the ones deciding what an excessive patient load is and how much time needs to allotted to each patient contact in keeping with payor standards. Those who are in the position of authority to dictate work place behaviors and standards of care may have lost sight or never shared the vision of what inspires the front line person and they really want to do and what brings together the followers and contributors of this whole concept of caring together.
    The person who chooses to be a front-line caregiver may do it because they want to help, or because they have always loved to be of service or because they want to give back because of a bestowed kindness. The nurse, the tech, the transporter who love what they do enough to give up their weekends, their holidays, sacrifice going to their child’s programs, first dance, these wonderful people who understand the power in their touch are worried about leaving a sad patient behind may be doing so because it is what inspires and feeds their soul. In another place, the business school graduate- health care executive is worried if the contact they made at the last conference might pan out for the next step in their career ladder or if their area of supervision will meet the end of the year prospectus because it may affect the tiered bonus program that was so attractive at the hiring interview.
    Such is the juxtaposition that we may find to be the inert factor that makes the patient in the gown waiting on a gurney in a crowded waiting room or hallway just the “old guy with side pain who is rule out appy” to the caregiver who is so behind in their position’s expected duties, too to busy to consider what an impact a simple random act of kindness would mean to the patient who is a child of God, son, a brother, a father, a grandfather- loved greatly by others, but relegated to a number, a presenting problem, a diagnosis, a time-line and a billable unit of service.
    It is simply because one chose the train platform where everyone is like them and the other one didn’t- different platforms- same station, different destination. We are all on a collective journey, each with our own concerns, but we must learn to share from within in order to be able to heal throughout.
    I hope that when the event presents itself for me to be in need of the services of a health care provider, that the person touching me will be one of the interns I had under my influence for a brief time during their educational period. Because from me they didn’t learn how to network successfully but rather understood how I feel it is important to find and see God in themselves so that they could look directly into their fellow human being’s eyes and see the God in theirs. Recognize God in everyone and respect them because “Everyone is someone where they came from.”

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  7. ~liz Wessel Avatar

    Wow, Xavier, how poignantly but soulfully expressed. I too would want to be cared for by someone who was fortunate enough to have been in your sphere of influence. The wisdom you offer us is rare and beautiful. I thank you for this remarkable essay. It radiates from a heart of gold.

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  8. Suan Geh Avatar
    Suan Geh

    Congratulation Erie on the birth of your grandson. You must be filled with joy to see him. He is now part of humanity. We all are a part of humanity no matter whether or not what capacity in life we are in: rich, poor, someone in a top position in the business world, the person in prison, the psychiatric patient or a senior citizen before with a position in his/her field of work but now a “nobody”. Within each shell there is a human spirit and the individual person needs to be treated with love and respect no matter what. As a nurse we are there to bind the wounds of the individual whether providing psychological, physical or spiritual care and provide each person with love and support. The world had a different view but we have God’s love and want to give comfort the comfortless.

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    Oh my God! So cute baby~~I love him, kiss kiss kiss

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